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TS_Tiger · 2025-09-09T02:59:41.262Z

So, I'm three counties away staying at my family home, as my father's cancer has taken a huge turn for the worst. We're looking at approx 1-2 weeks per hospice. It's been very very rough. I've basically played hospital orderly to keep him in one place, as a slight delirium has him wanting to be up and down all night. So, I'm night shift. Been on the couch for about a week already, and plan to spend whatever remainder here as well. I'll just say, not ask, for any good vibes or alike that you could spare my poor mother. Hate watching this for both, but mom's torn up, as expected. Next year would be 40 years for them. This sucks y'all. Much love you guys! TS

Dad's cancer went from maybe two years, to maybe 6 mo, to about about a week in a flash.

Hospice was a godsend. Truly. We could finally relax, enjoy the last few days with him; watching him hold court with friends and family coming by to wish him the best. Then the last day where his body failed, but he hung around for a few hours until we could all say our goodbyes. He died with me next to his side, as soon as his most trusted friend in his elder years left the room after praying over him.

And then of course, as he's literally taking his final breath, I'm holding his hand while trying to silence my phone via my smart watch on the other hand, using my nose, as my wife is blowing me up because my 5-year old locked them out of the house.

It's things like that made me laugh even in those moments, because dad would have thought that hilarious.

I miss dad. His presence was one you didn't really feel until he was out of the room. It was a subtle calming, in the background. But, what pulls me back out of the sadness is the utter joy I have in knowing who he was, what he meant to people, and the blessing it was to have him in my life.

I think, on the other side of this, you'll feel the same, and that's what you'll remember most. Not this. But the decades that came before it.

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Re: Jounge... I'm at some kinda crossroad in life, and it sucks

Sep 9, 2025, 1:02 AM

I know how you feel. My mom has terminal cancer and at best has a few more years left, at worst maybe months if not weeks. She’s been in and out of the hospital for the past 10 months. My older sister had to spend most of her time there so my mom wouldn’t be so lonely and to help out. All the while I had to stay home to watch over my little sister. My mom is back home now but she is still really weak. Luckily the doctors were able to find a chemo treatment that seems to be working for her. Hopefully that chemo can extend her life to the maximum which I think would be like 2 or 3 years. The longest anyone has lived after being diagnosed with the type of cancer my mom has is 5 years. So if we are reallly lucky she could live another 4 or 5 years but that seems doubtful.

I’m not sure if your fathers cancer is terminal or if there is still some hope of him beating it but I hope he feels bettor soon. Make sure you get enough eat and sleep. I’m not that good with comforting people but I’m sending good vibes to your mother now. If you or your mother need something to do to keep your mind off of things for just a little bit then I suggest taking a couple buzzfeed quizzes and they even have an “arcade” section too. My fav quizzes are the food quizzes and my fav game is the Pyramid Scheme game.
https://www.buzzfeed.com/quizzes/food
https://www.buzzfeed.com/arcade

I hope everything turns out ok for you and your family. Oh btw Happy Birthday!

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Jounge... I'm at some kinda crossroad in life, and it sucks

You got it

Man, I was right there where you were back in December.

PS - Happy Birthday to TS_Tiger today

Good thoughts to you and your fam.

Re: Jounge... I'm at some kinda crossroad in life, and it sucks

Ts and Ps.*******

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Re: Jounge... I'm at some kinda crossroad in life, and it sucks

Dude, been there and done that

Sorry. Several of us, myself included, seem to be at this stage of life.

I kinda know what youre dealing with

CANCER sucks. I hope to live long enough to see researchers come up with a

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Sending the good vibes in every direction this morning.***

Life becomes real when you start losing those you love.

You've got it. Man times is rough for some folks in here right now.***

Sorry to hear this, man. I feel you right now.

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