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Public service announcement:
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Mar 27, 2025, 11:50 AM
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HumbleServant® post below on favorite foods made me think:
If your mom or grandmother has favorite foods that she cooks and you love, get a recipe. Don't wait until she is gone and then wish you had. Many of those are recipes that live only in her head, like my mom's potato soup. No I didn't follow my own advice. Now she is gone and I am left trying to replicate what she did, with varying degrees of success. I would give anything for the chance to spend one more afternoon with her and video her making that soup. She would have loved that.
On another note, if you have old family photos that your mom always tells you who the people in the photos are, write it down! I have several framed portraits in my home from the 1800's of whom I know are greats to me, great, greats to my daughter. I have no idea who they are. It didn't seem important then. It does now.
In summary, treasure your time with your parents. I know if they have dementia, or alzheimer's caring for them can become difficult. Their entire personality changes. Confession, when my dad had alzheimer's and was so unlike his personality before the disease changed him, I found myself wishing it would all be over. After he died and the pressure of caring for someone who looked like my dad but acted nothing like him was over, I now miss him greatly and regret my impatience with him, which wasn't really him it was the disease.
The blessing is Jesus is a redeemer. No, I can't go back and redo those last few years. But, I can look forward to heaven and him restored, no disease, just my dad. I can't wait for that day!
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Rival Killer [2873]
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Couldn't agree more
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Mar 27, 2025, 12:17 PM
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My Mom died 2 years ago, and in addition to missing her all the time, we've lost a treasure trove of family lore.
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Doesn't seem so important when you have it
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Mar 27, 2025, 12:21 PM
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but is very important when you no longer do.
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Mar 27, 2025, 12:47 PM
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Rev - I am with you. My parents are still here but there is giant holes in my families history on my mom's side that came over from Italy. I wished I had asked more questions before her parents passed
About a year ago I gave my mom "homework" for her birthday (she's in her upper 70s). I had setup a Storyworth for her and gave it to her for her birthday. She has always loved writing and telling stories.
If you aren't familiar with Storyworth its a series of thought-provoking or fun questions about a person's life, stuff that you normally wouldn't think to ask. Things like "What was your dad like when you growing up?" or "What is one of the stupidest things you've ever done". "How did you manage the periods in your life where you had the least money" etc
Those questions come at regular intervals (weekly, biweekly etc) and at the end of the year they put all of the stories in a bound book. I prepaid for a copy for her and her 3 kids. I have not looked at any of the answers because I want to read it all at once when its done.
https://welcome.storyworth.com/about?
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Mar 27, 2025, 12:52 PM
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Sounds like a great purposeful map to preserve those memories. Thanks for sharing.
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For my Mom's 80th birthday, I gave her a rock. Yep, a rock.
I told her it was her Ebenezer. I also gave her a list of 60 things that my brother, his children, and I assembled to outline specific areas in our lives where we saw that our Lord protected, blessed, and saw us through difficult times. These were also reasons for her and us to rejoice in Him. I gave her the assignment to add 20 more for a total of 80. She added about 25-30 more.
I am going to finalize the list, have them printed, and frame them. The Ebenezer is now sitting right outside of her front door. Whenever anyone asks about the rock, she is able to tell them what it represents and why she has it there - it reminds her of the goodness of God throughout her life.
(Here is a good article on an Ebenezer and the origin of it - https://www.biblestudytools.com/bible-study/topical-studies/powerful-biblical-meaning-and-importance-of-an-ebenezer.html)
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I gave my daughter a pendant with a stone inset that had been her
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Mar 27, 2025, 2:10 PM
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great grandmothers. I wrote her a letter talking about it being an edneezer as she finishes Clemson this year and is off to Atlanta to begin her professional life. I told her someday her daughter may be playing dress up in her jewelry box and come across the pendant and ask about it. I told her to tell her daughter about His faithfulness, to me, to her and to her great grandmother. I told her to let her daughter read the birthday letter from me. Ebeneezer is all about building the next generation on the foundation of God's faithfulness.
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Mar 27, 2025, 2:10 PM
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Amen brother.
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Great advice, @revmarkg®. My parents died a very long time ago. I had just turned 26 when my Dad passed in 1989 and I was 32 when Mom passed in 1995. When my sister passed last year we were going through boxes of old pictures and had a hard time identifying some in them. On the other hand, my uncle (Dad’s brother) lived to be 92 and just passed a few years ago. He passed on to me a 3 board pine table my great grandfather built somewhere around the turn of the century (1900, not 2000), and a Remington double barrel shotgun that same great grandfather bought from Sears in 1910. We have the table in our breakfast area. I refinished it last year and that nearly scared me to death. It turned out well - was able to add protection without changing the look of the table at all. I found and finished a piece of rainbow poplar and mounted the shotgun on it above our mantle. We recorded my uncle telling the history of the table before he passed so we will pass that along to our kids with the table. The shotgun had spent over 60 years in a gun case in the back of a closet and now it is on display and will be passed along to future generations as well. We need to preserve our heritage.
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What great pieces. That table looks beautiful. You did a great job.***
Mar 27, 2025, 7:16 PM
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Re: What great pieces. That table looks beautiful. You did a great job.***
Mar 27, 2025, 8:32 PM
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Thanks. And I’m not joking at all when I say I was scared to death to do anything to it. There are so many stories on the top of that table. One large burn mark from an old iron has always captivated me for some reason. I used Minwax wipe on poly and applied about 4 coats. Stayed clear and not too shiny. Just what I was hoping for.
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Can I call you if I ever have a refinishing job?***
Mar 28, 2025, 10:33 AM
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