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RealTalk, Any of yous guise ever packed up the family
Aug 22, 2022, 11:07 AM
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and moved cities on a whim. I can keep my job, work remote, and wife can get a new job. We never really WANTED to stay in York County, but our families were here so we moved home. Well, my family is pretty much all dead. There is a brother in York County for now and an Aunt in her 80's. We are taking this opportunity to finally make that leap.
The kids have only lived here, we have only lived here other than 6 years in Clemson. All my friends are local. This gives me a weirdly excited feeling and a whole helluva lot of anxiety.
Those of you that have done it, did it suck? Did you regret it? My biggest concern is moving to a city we know nobody (Wilmington possibly) and trying to buy a house while selling two houses here. I guess I could sell Mom's, buy one there, then sell my house here. Just seems stressful AF (but not stressful enough to keep it from happening).
Anyways, this post is 15% getting shit off my chest, 50% asking for feedback, and 35% bait for some good ole American shit talking
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Need some pics of that smokin hawt wife of yours
Aug 22, 2022, 11:13 AM
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before I'm able to provide any feedback.
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We are friends on Facebook, the good ones are on there and
Aug 22, 2022, 11:13 AM
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we are headed back to the Beach for Labor Day so you may get some more then.
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Re: We are friends on Facebook, the good ones are on there and
Aug 22, 2022, 11:15 AM
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I keep his Buddybook photos bookmarked.***
Aug 22, 2022, 12:12 PM
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I’m hearing Tirzah will be the next Greenville
Aug 22, 2022, 11:14 AM
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In 5 years….better hold off to collect that equity!
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No
Aug 22, 2022, 11:14 AM
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Yes
Aug 22, 2022, 11:14 AM
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I moved from Raleigh to Cary. AMA.
FR FR tho:
Moving 15 minutes away was a pain in the ### because we hired movers for 95% of our stuff but that 5% was a pain doing trips during naps, after bedtime. Assuming that since its a bigger move than mine, you will do 100% of the move, taking at least that hassle out.
When we jumped ship, the housing market was on fire and I knew my house would not have a problem selling.... even though I still had anxiety attacks about two mortgage payments and so forth.
In regards to not knowing anyone: your kids are old enough that this will impact them. Meeting new friends in a completely new city is tough. RulezJr is still young enough that the move didn't impact her because all of her "friends" are family or we moved closer to the ones we knew. Fortunately, living in a very kid heavy neighborhood, there are tons of families with kids that we have met at the pool. In a year, we have a pretty solid neighborhood group of four families with a few alternates that we hang out independently from. They will meet new friends at school and in your neighborhood, if you choose to do the suburbia route like we did.
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Did you drive or just walk the furniture over?***
Aug 22, 2022, 11:17 AM
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It was more of a toss.***
Aug 22, 2022, 11:20 AM
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How many square miles is Cary now?
Aug 22, 2022, 11:21 AM
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It was compact when I lived there in early 2000s. Now it stretches out to Jordan Lake. Crazy amount of development. Takes ~30min just to drive across town.
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Suburbia is the FUTURE
Aug 22, 2022, 11:22 AM
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Probably
I think I could sell Mom's put a downpayment on one, move into it, then sell mine. But I get anxiety over that kind of stuff because that is ALOT of money tied up into two houses.
We would certainly hire a mover, but I'd probably get rid of 30% of what I own. We have amassed alot of shizz over the years.
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where you trying to go?
Aug 22, 2022, 11:15 AM
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i would love to, but everything you mentioned applies to us as well
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About 95% settled on Wilmington, NC
Aug 22, 2022, 11:18 AM
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I was all about Denver, CO but I got vetoed by everyone in my family.
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Re: About 95% settled on Wilmington, NC
Aug 22, 2022, 11:20 AM
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I don't see why not
Aug 22, 2022, 11:21 AM
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can always visit family.
But.......if they help a lot with the tribe of kids you have, that may play a role
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Zero help here, we have a babysitter who helps some and she
Aug 22, 2022, 11:24 AM
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will gladly come up there for a weekend visit to watch kids occasionally or dog sit. But we rarely use her anyways.
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Oculus Spirit [85339]
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"Any of yous guise ever packed up the family
Aug 22, 2022, 11:16 AM
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and moved cities on a whim".
Dood, no one does that. Except for maybe now that a lot of people can work remote. But everyone is going back to the office once they realize clemsonrulez08®isn't doing #### while "working from home".
That was the suckiest thing about leaving college and getting a real job.....Now I have to live "here". Suddenly we aren't tied to a 30 mile radius of the office, but we done poured the footers on the house.
If I had to choose between a new boat and making 15 various upgrades or repairs to the house. I think I would go with the new boat. Life is short. Get the boat.
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We are throwing me under the bus
Aug 22, 2022, 11:20 AM
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When we can pick on FBCoachSC® for not doing anything AT the office?
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“Office”***
Aug 22, 2022, 11:22 AM
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That's the dream
Aug 22, 2022, 11:18 AM
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But I worry about kids making friends. I expect to move as soon as youngest enters college.
Every year we live in Columbia is another year we become more comfortable living in Columbia. And another year I watch my life slowly slip away.
We'd move to Clearwater-FL, or Cashiers-NC, or Spain/Portugal. TBD
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Kids will be fine.***
Aug 22, 2022, 11:19 AM
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York County to Nashville
Aug 22, 2022, 11:18 AM
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Pretty much the biggest No brainer in the history of no-brainers
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Well, DUH.
Aug 22, 2022, 11:35 AM
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You went from one music mecca to another music mecca. It's like not even moving in that regard.
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Oneppo Bros vs 60% of the music biz
Aug 22, 2022, 11:37 AM
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Agree, pretty much a dead heat.
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Didn't have kids - but I peaced out after 2003 after
Aug 22, 2022, 11:18 AM
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graduation from Clemson. Moved to Hoboken, NJ and had no one here other than my fiancé at the time. Make the move and be your own self. Always fun to make it on your own.
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A whim, no
Aug 22, 2022, 11:19 AM
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But did move my family a few times due to new jobs.
I like new places, I get bored staying in the same place for too long.
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Family is relative I guess, at least size.
Aug 22, 2022, 11:23 AM
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As it wa just me and wife and a dog. I kinda did that when I moved to Clemson in 2015. But then a few months later my wife was just crying every day, and we ended up back down here.
I wanted to do exactly what you said when wife if got a new job working from home right before covid, but they told her she needed to be in SC. Now she spends a lot of time flying to New Jersey and PA, so that seems kinda dumb we have to say here.
I'd move to Eleuthera tomorrow, but for some reason my wife feels like she needs to be anchored to about 4 square miles in Mt Pleasant or IOP. When she gets tired enough of me complaining about wanting to move and kicks me out, I imagine I'll just end up going somewhere else on my own.
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Wouldn't do it on a whim.
Aug 22, 2022, 11:23 AM
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Check out the destination for a few weekend trips. Make sure you are comfortable with long term employment opportunities (like if you lost your job for some reason). Weigh out pros y cons.
Moving is a hassle. Moving is expensive. Gotta consider the impact on the kids.
Time is your biggest asset, so use it to make the right decision.
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Yeah, "on a whim" isn't really true, been contemplating
Aug 22, 2022, 11:27 AM
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since 2006. The timing is such now that, if we wait any longer, we aint ever leaving. I am not living beside my parent's house after we sell it. I don't think I could do that. It would bother me too much. And if I sell my place and buy another in York County, then I am a lifer. So it is now or maybe not until they all graduate high school in 10 years.
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If you're trying to get the the best life possible
Aug 22, 2022, 11:28 AM
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Move to an island. Not like James Island, but like a real island.
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Goat Island is nice this time of year.
Aug 22, 2022, 11:40 AM
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Lots of dry goose feces for starting fires, and cardboard for shelter is just a short swim to the Lake Club. Plus, you have a perfect view of the Ebenezer Park boat landing. With enough kayaks, the entire family can paddle across the channel to Tega Cay for necessities.
#LakeWylieLife
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Don’t forget the perpetual Tega Cay
Aug 22, 2022, 11:51 AM
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Sewage leak jetsam. It turns that cove in Wylie into a little slice of Venice.
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It alleviates the need for any type of septic system.
Aug 22, 2022, 11:57 AM
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IT'S LIKE A BIDET YOU CAN SWIM IN!!!
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Housing is averaging around the same $$/SF we have here
Aug 22, 2022, 11:58 AM
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give or take a little depending on the neighborhood.
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Oculus Spirit [81076]
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But that insurance though
Aug 22, 2022, 12:12 PM
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I'd check into that pretty carefully. Flood and wind pool will be the big ones up there. I think Wilmington gets hurricanes as much as any city does.
I was Islamorada/Marathon bound until $20k-30k/insurance/year and 1% property taxes brought me back to reality.
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I think where we are looking is far enough off the coastline
Aug 22, 2022, 12:26 PM
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where that does not come into play. We are not buying a $1.2M beachhouse, it is off the coast a good bit. We talked with a realtor some just to get started looking and we felt good about what she told us. Now, as we get more serious, I'll do my due diligence, but thanks for the heads up.
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We pay about $700 a year for wind/flood in PI
Aug 22, 2022, 3:27 PM
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it actually costs me more because it is not my principal residence, which makes zero sense logically.
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Which side of 17 are you on?
Aug 22, 2022, 3:32 PM
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When i was down the street 2 years ago, it was about $1300/year just wind/hail. Flood was about $600/year because technically Wasn't in a flood zone...but my neighbor was.
I think it was the about the same for the place I bought in Murrell's inlet in March, but I can't remember. Flood was $1200/year.
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I have not done that, but after doing some reading for you
Aug 22, 2022, 11:31 AM
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it looks like Minnesota has the highest per capita boat ownership of any US state, so it's obvious to me that this is where the highest number of boat landings must be. Since Ely is the only place in Minnesota where I've spent any significant amount of time, I'm going to say you should move there.
GO VIKINGS, AMIRIGHT?
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well, there's like
Aug 22, 2022, 11:59 AM
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1000 lakes there, or something
SheGUAR works there, actually.
but...you know...from here
and i watched a livestream of people trying to pull a 50ft yacht out of a lake while it was almost frozen, on an icy boat ramp, with no room for the actual truck required to do it.
That's like THREE plusses.
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Did they ever get that boat out? I forgot all about it.
Aug 22, 2022, 12:02 PM
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What an absolute shit show
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i *think* they did....
Aug 22, 2022, 12:04 PM
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but i didn't watch it till the end...just long enough to realize that it WASN'T gonna end in a hilarious disaster
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Boundary Waters Canoe Area Wilderness.
Aug 22, 2022, 12:03 PM
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I've paddled a lot of places over the years, but nothing tops that. Definitely the most remote place I've ever been.
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What's driving the move?
Aug 22, 2022, 11:38 AM
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Just wanting to get out of the same old same old?
If you have 2 houses currently, sell one and buy a vacation property in beach area and rent that one out / use it.
We did it about 2 years ago. Completely different circumstances though...no kids, got paid to move, wife is from this area, moving out of ######## ATL into a much quieter, safer area, etc. and it was pretty seamless.
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I do wanna move in like 10-15 years
Aug 22, 2022, 11:42 AM
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so my kids can go to the HS I went to and we can be close to the ocean. But we got plenty of time to sort that out.
you should totally come up and live near me and Obed. maybe then Obed will meet up for a beer (don't hold your breath tho)
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I'd probably do it, but personally don't see the plus in
Aug 22, 2022, 11:41 AM
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going to Wilmington.
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Wilmington seems OK. We've vacationed at Wrightsville many
Aug 22, 2022, 11:46 AM
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times and knocked around there some. I agree, I wouldn't want to live next door to your mom's house after you sell it. Rock Hill and York County are nice, but after living there till a year after graduating from Clemson, I don't care to live there again.
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You’re smart to heed Michael Stipe’s advice
Aug 22, 2022, 11:53 AM
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Don’t go back to Rock Hill
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We have discussed selling the house after the kids
Aug 22, 2022, 11:57 AM
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move out (hopefully to family) and moving to the mountains.
Only problem is all of our family is around us which is good and bad. But by then everybody should either be dead or moved off on their own ########.
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What happened to "leaving a legacy" or whatever it was
Aug 22, 2022, 12:01 PM
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you said about leaving that hovel to your kids?
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Aug 22, 2022, 12:05 PM
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I wouldn't do it just to move though.
Consider your financial gains pros/cons and the kids. I had to move due to job but I was lucky that my oldest was in elementary school and too young to remember moving or having it affect friendships.
Selling now? Well, you better know where you're going and you better have it lined up before you put the signs in the yards. Renting something temporarily is a royal pain in the taint and expensive. Just went through that last year. Plus it costs an anusload of money now to get out of leases.
All of it is stressful to put it mildly - or was to Fireball's family. Especially if you don't know anyone where you are moving.
My advice - don't do it unless it's a financial decision that betters your family and quality of life. Otherwise you'll regret leaving your friends, your kids will miss their friends, your wife may hate her new gig, etc...
IF I had the luxury of two houses to sell, I'd look at selling one and buying a smaller 2nd home near the coast or Wilmington if you desire. Ease into the deep end without pulling a hammy doing a nutcracker off the diving board.
That's my .02 worth and I usually get back change.
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just leave already
Aug 22, 2022, 12:13 PM
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you may not get another chance
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Not exactly as you describe, but we did move back to the
Aug 22, 2022, 1:08 PM
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Carolinas in 2008. Some thoughts…
Bought a house before selling the old house… both declined in value in a tough msrket. Worst stress I have had in my life.
Had I waited it out, we could have bought any number of properties (lake, land, etc) and made serious bank on the recovery
Real estate swings are wilder where there are a lot of second homes, so choose your destination and timing wisely.
Would make the move over in a heartbeat, but would do things a bit differently. We’re actually now at a similar point in our lives to you in that I can work from anywhere, but I am now focused on having everything in order to be able to capitalize on the market dislocation I believe is inevitable.
Good luck!
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Just 2 cents. The happiness resulting from a move seems
Aug 22, 2022, 1:41 PM
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mostly relational. We've made three moves that were discretionary, 1st and 3rd fabulous, the 2nd was not good. The determining factor was that in the good ones the decision was either motivated by or at least supported by relational opportunities in the new city.
This will effect different people different ways. On one end of the scale, some people can be parachuted into a strange city and acclimate swimmingly. Everybody thinks that is them, btw, but it is few, imo. On the other end, some people move to be with grandkids. From my experience, the most important assessment is of the spouse. I lean more to acclimating anywhere, so I pushed a move to a beautiful mountain place with no existing friendships. Wonderful house and view. I was happy as a clam. Turns out that MissTulsa doesn't thrive in that, and her feeling of isolation got worse over time rather than better. I had not taken that into account. So we made another move. All is great.
If you know that both you and your wife are knife-in-your-teeth pioneers, don't worry about all this and go for it. As one poster said, doing something on your own is a great things. #1 was that for us because of distance (1200 miles), though we had friends there.
None of that may apply to you. Take as needed.
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Re: RealTalk, Any of yous guise ever packed up the family
Aug 22, 2022, 2:16 PM
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On a whim? No, chasing money yep. Second wife and I been together since 2011. Stops so far have included Destin FL, Atlanta, Las Vegas, Charlotte, Central PA, and now Anderson. Hasn't bothered either of us to meet new people, but we're home now so no plans to keep moving around.
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Good luck. Moved 5X _ stressful but mostly good.
Aug 22, 2022, 2:44 PM
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4X for work and when retired back to SC after 32 years in FL.
You are thinking rationally and about the right stuff. Good probability a move could work out well. If not then you’re not “really” locked in. Move again and you will have a whole lot less crap the second time.
A little risk and adventure ain’t a bad thing.
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