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Hands up for anyone that has blown up a bridge when you quit a gig
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I think I've had all I want at this place, and I'm thinking of just not coming back. I've been told my whole life to never "blow up a bridge", but I think at this point at the end of my career, maybe I should finally tell my boss the truth that he's a bully, has no boundaries, has a terrible personality, and that he's a prick, too. There's a reason why people keep leaving, and he's it.
And maybe let a few others here know what I think of them as well.
Did you ever do this? How did that affect your permanent record?
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Re: Hands up for anyone that has blown up a bridge when you quit a gig
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:23 AM
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Is he the one that stole the desk?***
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Re: Hands up for anyone that has blown up a bridge when you quit a gig
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:25 AM
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Heisman Winner [81806]
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I don't know about burning a bridge, but I have run into people at other jobs
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:26 AM
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that I knew from a former job. Or people at a job who knew others from a former job. Not that it would bar me from getting the job, but it could make it awkward.
Now if you're dead set on burning that bridge, the best way to show your boss is to wait until after hours, go over to his house, ring his doorbell, and when he answers the door, get down on you knees and suck his #### until he cumbs. Then ridicule him for being a ###.
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That'll be a long distance beej. He lives in California.***
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:27 AM
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Heisman Winner [81806]
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California huh? Well he's probably already a ### then. It should make things
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:41 AM
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easier or at least faster to get the poison out. Just make sure you maintain eye contact throughout the whole process to let him know who's in charge. And then snowball the final product into his partner's mouth.
And don't neglect the bawls.
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How would you like to come and work for me?***
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I reckon I'm batting 950 on that.
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:26 AM
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I had several grandslams over the years. In fact, I only had one job I'd return to. Combustion Engineering and I was laid off with 2K others a year before the company shut down almost all Chattanooga operations.
Overall, I'd say all the animosity between me and the guys I worked for hurt me more than any of them. I have a special way of showing I'm unhappy at a job.
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"I have a special way of showing I'm unhappy at a job."
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:30 AM
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public masterbation is never the answer
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Wow, you really misspelled "defecation"***
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While there may be a instant gratification in doing that
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:27 AM
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it's brief, if you leave, do it the right way. The other part of the ciphering is that rarely do people ever take good feedback and apply it. Why do you think taking negative feedback would cause this person to reflect in a manner to look inward?
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Heisman Winner [84503]
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I thought about that, and I'm not sure if I care if he takes anything I say
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:29 AM
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seriously.
I figure it'll spark an argument, and then it will really be on. He's a hot head, and I figure I could probably get a lawsuit AND him fired over it.
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I did that once
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:31 AM
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2 years later, old boss became new boss and I had to leave again.
Only do this when you are retiring or win the lottery.
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Heisman Winner [84503]
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If I ever go back to work again, it won't be in this industry.
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:35 AM
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and it sure AF wouln't be for this company. I want the eff out of this ish.
I think i might go sell boats or somethin'. Go to work for a boat company maybe. I dunno..something. Grinding fiberglass all day is preferable to getting calls at 3 am and being held accountable for stuff I have no control over.
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Aug 14, 2024, 2:29 PM
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If you're completely switching careers. But other than that, yes, I agree with you. It's a gamble if you're staying in the same field.
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Iffins you were going to go out in flames...
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:32 AM
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Do it in front of your bosses boss. That guy may think the same as you and be like... you know what, eff that guy. Catch you at the door and be like, hole up. I am firing your boss and would like to offer you that position.
Otherwise, dont blow up.
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Heisman Winner [84503]
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thats not a bad idea just because it might get him canned.
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:36 AM
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But I don't want his job. I don't want any other job at this place.
another 5 years and it's gonna be ALL indians and the CEO.
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This was my suggestion. Will do no good telling off your boss, if he's
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:45 AM
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the problem. The buck will stop with him and it will hurt you more than him.
Go to his boss, or HR, or both, and lay everything out for them, and tell then you're talking to them, instead of your boss, because you want to help your coworkers and the company in the future by letting THEM know.
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How would it hurt me?
Aug 14, 2024, 9:52 AM
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Dude live in California, and I'll never see him again.
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No need to blow up a bridge. Instead
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Tiger Titan [51715]
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Well, what are you gonna do about money and bills and.....
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:38 AM
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You know, I've never really liked paying bills. I don't think I'm gonna do that, either.
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I've left on good terms everywhere and even went back to one place
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:47 AM
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where I am currently.
However, I have never hated a workplace too much. I just hate working.
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Heisman Winner [84503]
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I've been working for a long, long time.
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Aug 14, 2024, 9:50 AM
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And I've never disliked a boss and a place to work as much I dislike the current place. My current boss is the worst boss I've ever had in 30+ years of working.
And I got in a physical fight and a lawsuit with one previously.
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Ring of Honor [22535]
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There does seem to be a common denominator here...
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Aug 14, 2024, 10:18 AM
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Im just kinda kidding.
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Nah.
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Aug 14, 2024, 10:36 AM
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That dude got all butthurt when his contracting company got kicked out of a place he was pimping folks out (contractors), and the company that he was pimping them too decided they were getting rid of contractors and going to all full time workers. I was working for him there as a contractor, and the company asked me to roll full time with them, so I did.
I never signed a noncompete with him that included places he couldn't do business. So a few months later I ran into him at a bar in downtown CHS, he was drunk, and started threatening me with a lawsuit. I told him to eff-off, go ahead and sue and I'd counter sue. Some more words were exchanged, we pushed each other around and he took a swing at me and missed. Bouncers came over and kicked him out.
Even with all that, he wasn't as much of a dink as my current boss.
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not really a solo bridge burning, but once me and 2 of my co-worker engineers
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Aug 14, 2024, 10:12 AM
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decided to leave at the same time, in the same month. We got a new boss who was a complete cocky bas***rd mandating unrealisitic deadlines, unecessary reviews, just waste of time stuff, so we decided to plot a mass exodus over a couple lunches.
Instead of individually risking blowing up our careers, we decided to all covertly make plans to leave. When we had all safely secured new plans/jobs, we one-by-one dropped the 2-week notice bomb. I went first, my buddies went a week or so later so our collaboration wasn't so obvious.
Our move even prompted a couple non-collaborators to quit also, admin assts even. It left bossman in an impossible situation without a majority of his staff.
He was gone within a couple monhs of our leaving.
Me and my two co-conspirators remain friends 25 years later.
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I'm not allowed at two high schools and a handful of elementary schools***
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Yo, I saw the town next door to you got about 8 inches of rain
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Aug 14, 2024, 10:19 AM
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I am assuming your equity moat worked ?
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That 8 inches came from my yard
Aug 14, 2024, 12:35 PM
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it's amazing how fast your neighbor's yard can flood when you have a shovel and a flashlight
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Gave them the ole graywater treatment, ehh?***
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####### need ditches***
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What is the upside? Personal satisfaction I guess. Do they do exist interviews?
Aug 14, 2024, 12:46 PM
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I am not one to blow up at anything btw so I get no satisfaction from doing it. IOW, do what you feel you need to do.
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Thats about it, and at this point, what else really matters?
Aug 14, 2024, 12:51 PM
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I feel like no one has ever told this guy what a bullying dink he is; maybe he'd at least think about it--but prob not.
And like I said, if that didn't work, maybe I could goad him into an argument and he'd say something more stupid than he normally does.
Being as this could be my last gig and I just retire early, making a recording of me telling him what a dink he is and him blowing up at me, then putting that on the internets would be pretty funny.
I'm 110% certain that if it went viral he'd get canned.
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When I was fired a few weeks ago.
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Aug 14, 2024, 12:48 PM
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I really wanted to tell the one diack head off and I could have bc they are not hiring me back. But ya know I just figured that was unprofessional so I handed him my iPad and walked away. Shook my bosses hand and snubbed the boss mans boss .
But I have thought about it since and I regret not telling he how much of an idiot he is and that everyone hates him
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My 2 cents - weigh the pros and cons...
Aug 14, 2024, 12:50 PM
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the pros of telling them off is it'll make you feel better for a short time and might...might...make things better for the co-workers you're leaving behind.
The cons are it'll come back to bite you in the #### in the future.
Short terms satisfaction versus longer-term risk avoidance...I go with the longer-term risk avoidance every time.
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I'm not sure what the risk avoidance is though
Aug 14, 2024, 12:53 PM
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I'm pretty much done with this career.
I don't think folks who own boat companies in SC give a shyatt what Indians in California have to say about anything.
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Short terms satisfaction versus longer-term risk avoidance...
Aug 14, 2024, 1:04 PM
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So kinda like when one has sex with a crazy slot? You know at the time it’s I had idea with short term satisfaction but it’s hard not to given the opportunity.
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But it's always the crazy ones that do that thing you like
Aug 14, 2024, 1:07 PM
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As a millennial, may I recommend Quiet Quitting?
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You could probably get a couple of weeks of salary before they realize what is going on.
I don't know if we have any Gen Z posters, but if we did they might recommend accusing said boss of sexual harassment or not respecting your mental health.
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Oh he definitely doesn't respect anyone's mental health
Aug 14, 2024, 1:34 PM
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Calls me at all hours of the day--several times a day--to harass me over stuff. Dude has no boundaries.
And the company doesn't even pay for the cell phone he's calling me on.
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Why do you answer?
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Aug 14, 2024, 1:43 PM
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Seems like the best revenge is getting fired. Severance, drawing unemployment from them, and the excuse not to train your replacement.
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There's no severance when getting fired.
Aug 14, 2024, 3:42 PM
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I'd take getting laid off, so I could get severance and my RSU's vested.
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Why not start doing it before you quit?
Aug 14, 2024, 1:43 PM
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Start standing up to the ###### now. I do it with our unrealistic clients all the time. Let them know the proper way to handle things.
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He was being pretty rude to one of my employees last week.
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I said something to him and the project mgt girl that was chiming in with him. I said the way they were berating him, the tone of the questions, and demanding answers he didn't have, on a call with 20+ people was not cool. I told him I thought it was unprofessional, and rather than throw the guy under the bus like that, they should pull him aside to talk to him.
2 days later he tells me I either take on 11 more people or he "won't be able to defend my job". No pay increase, of course.
With the no pay raise last year (after record breaking financials), essentially working 6-7 days a week since February, It's for certain there will be no raise this year either, and there will be more lay offs with no decrease in what needs to get done.
I'm over him, and this place.
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Re: Hands up for anyone that has blown up a bridge when you quit a gig
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I did, but not proud of it
Aug 14, 2024, 2:23 PM
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Did it in my early/mid 20s. Felt I had been screwed over (well, I had... certainly things I could have done better but also dealt with big, older egos who weren't interested in helping me grow or be a part of team... instead were worried about how many people they could stab in the back for their own benefit). The main boss was a lying, dishonest prick. So, I took my final vacation days, walked in the next day, tossed my ID and any equipment that belonged to them on prick's desk, resigned effective immediately and, in a more eloquent way, told em they sucked, and walked out.
I wish, just to have been more professional, I had given the two weeks (although they probably woulda just cut me given that place). I didn't face any repercussions for it; I never wanted to and never will want to go back over that bridge. Just wish I had done it to be more mature at that age.
Funny, though... the prick later got fired from there (and he was high-ranking) for some pretty despicable behavior, so that was satisfying. He had a reputation for very bad personal behavior that leaked into the workplace.
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Thats teh thing though. At this point in my career
Aug 14, 2024, 3:50 PM
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What's the difference?
I am where I am, and if its status quo at this point, well, that's prob about as good as its going to get.
Does "being professional" get me anywhere when I'm old?
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what youve got to do is cut the hamstring on the back of his leg***
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Re: what youve got to do is cut the hamstring on the back of his leg***
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Bridge on the River Kwai was...
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The definition of blowing up the bridge after you were fed up with the job.
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