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How do you picture your Dad when you remember him?

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Apr 26, 2022, 9:34 AM
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WARNING: This is another "nostalgia" post, for those who may not be into such stuff.

My father was an amazing man. And, of his 3 sons, I am always told I am, by far, the most like him. This was not always a good thing. There were times in my life where, as my older sisters would say, we "butted heads like two stubborn mountain goats!" No doubt, the truth. But, like most of us, as I got older, my Dad suddenly gained a FOUNTAIN of knowledge. Butt, this is about how I remember him whenever I "wax nostalgic".

For sure, one of the ways I picture my Dad is aboard one of his two Bulldozers. Both were old machines, both International brand. First, a TD-14A. Vintage no newer than 1955, because that's when they stopped producing that model. This particular one held significance for me because, like many things on our farm, at one point or another, my Dad and I worked on it together.

My Dad flat out LOVED going to "auction sales", which were particularly prevalent when I was in my teen years. A lot of farmers were either dying off, or getting out of farming, there were literally more than one sale to choose from within a couple hundred miles on any given Saturday. One of my Dad's "steals" from some sale somewhere, before I was even old enough to turn a wrench, was a "spare" 4 cylinder diesel engine for a TD-14A bulldozer. It sat in the back of our shop, taking up space for about 10 years. It was painted a sloppy gray, and we had no idea if it was any good or not.

Well, as the years went on, the engine in the TD-14A was about to give up the ghost. These were of the "crank on gas, trip to diesel" type. When the bulldozer engine oil pressure finally dropped to just about nil, and the crankshaft pulley was wobbling so bad from wear that you could barely keep a belt on it, Dad decided it was time to do an engine swap. Or rebuild, as required. So, we finally took the oil pan off the "spare" engine that had been sitting on the shop floor all those years. Imagine our shock and amazement when it was revealed that it was literally brand new inside. I'm talking metal parts still dipped in "cosmoline" new. It must have been some sort of military surplus engine of some sort. Did I mention that Dad had only paid $100 for this engine from the auction sale all those years ago?

So, the bulldozer was brought inside the shop, and over the course of a couple of weeks, we did the engine swap, and rebuilt the transmission, AND "steering clutches", which all needed attention. When it was all put back together, and we "lit it off" for the first time, it purred like a giant sewing machine. The next time my Dad took the dozer out to do some land clearing, I don't think I ever saw him smile more. It was truly a grown-up case of "boys and their toys".

So, after this long winded post, that is one of the ways I always think of my Dad. Sitting on that dozer, hitting the "trip to diesel" handle, and smiling at the sudden "BRRAAAAPP!" of power the straight exhaust made. (You may have guessed by now, my Dad was not a big fan of MUFFLERS.) He continued to do work with that thing all the way up to the age of ~80, about two years before he died. The only reason he stopped, is what we all think was some kind of ministroke, after which, he rarely left the house. I don't know if some equivalent of mechanical things exists in Heaven. But, if they do, that dozer is with my Dad now, and they are BOTH smiling.

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beating my #### in front of the whole neighborhood

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Apr 26, 2022, 9:36 AM
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when he found out i stole some red white and blue tennis wrist bands from the Navy Exchange.

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You poor thing. I know you are too warped by that experience

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Apr 26, 2022, 9:44 AM
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to ever function as a normal member of society. Or, at least that is what the pansies that make modern child discipline rules would want you to believe.

My Dad did not "spare the rod, and spoil the child" either. But, I will freely admit, I earned every spanking I ever got. And I never got disciplined when I DIDN'T deserve to.

And I turned out GREAT!

:)

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I may have occasionally gotten my hind-end whooped...

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Apr 26, 2022, 10:09 AM
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when I didn't do anything or necessarily deserved it, but those made-up for those times when I had previously gotten away with something but should have gotten my a$$ wore-out (e.g., hopping trains while camping-out with friends).

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Apr 26, 2022, 12:25 PM
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That brings back a lot of memories, of camping out beside the old SCL tracks. We were lucky one or several of us didn't get killed. I don't know about your crowd, but we were definitely, not the brightest bulbs hanging on the tree.

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Hopping trains in the dark was unbelievably stupid!!!

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Apr 26, 2022, 2:27 PM
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We would hop the train and ride about two miles near the Dairy Queen, jump off, eat some ice cream, and walk back home unless, of course, we could catch a train going in the opposite direction which rarely happened.

Getting on was generally pretty easy but by the time we got near the Dairy Queen, the train was moving faster which made jumping-off a lot harder. The tracks were elevated on a gravel bed so when you jumped, you had to clear the train, the tracks, and that gravel bed, so you were falling a good five feet. Plus, we were doing it in the dark. What a bunch of dumba$$es.

My parents would have killed me had they know about that.





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gotta thank mama for the cookin, Daddy for the whoopin

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Apr 26, 2022, 10:23 AM
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The Devil for the trouble that I got into

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I was about to say...

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Apr 26, 2022, 10:05 AM
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with a cigarette in his mouth and a belt in his hand wearing my a$$ out for doing something stupid like shooting a neighbors kid with a BB gun or a sling shot, ringing doorbells and running, or stealing bubble gum from the local Quick Way.

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One of the things I always thank my parents for is that

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Apr 26, 2022, 10:14 AM
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neither of them ever smoked. Forget about the health implications, nowadays, that is an EXPENSIVE habit.

This will make current smokers cringe. I remember a CARTON of cigarettes costing $1.00 in our little hole in the wall "store" that we ran, mostly to sell cokes, candy, and such to the families of farm hands who lived in tenant houses around us. Yep, a single pack of smokes was ONE DIME. I remember some of our farm hands smoking UNFILTERED Pall Malls, which is about as straight an invitation to lung cancer as you can send out.

:(

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shooting christmas lightbulbs out in the neighborhood

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Apr 26, 2022, 10:16 AM
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with my brand new BB gun...good times

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I remember my Dad telling me I shouldn't shoot birds, or

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Apr 26, 2022, 10:20 AM
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squirrels with my BB gun in the spring, because "Spring is the time of year when the birds and squirrels mate and make MORE birds and squirrels."

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Apr 26, 2022, 10:12 AM
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Nice memories 76. When I was a kid we lived on a small farm in the Lowcountry. My Dad’s full time job was at the Charleston Naval Shipyard and he raised Angus cows and chickens and rabbits and always had a big vegetable garden. We used a Farmall Cub tractor for mowing the yards and fields and plowing the garden. He also loved to fish and we spent a lot of time in the creeks and rivers around Johns Island fishing for winter trout in the cooler months. When I think of him he is either on that tractor or holding a big stringer of trout. I was the last of 5 kids and my parents were older and smoked a lot of cigarettes so my Dad died when I was only 26. Really wish I could have spent more time with him as an adult. I also remember him with my older siblings’ kids (his grandkids) and really wish my kids could have known him. He quit school in the 11th grade and joined the Navy but he had more common sense that just about anyone else I can think of. He was a man of few words but you could learn a lot by paying attention to them when he did speak. I frequently compare him and my Mom to Jed and Granny Clampett. And that is a compliment IMO. We didn’t have much but we never felt like we were missing anything. And yes, I earned every spanking I got too and believe I’m a better person because of the way we were raised.

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Apr 26, 2022, 11:08 AM
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Rhettfla, what shop or group was your father in at CNSYD?

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Apr 26, 2022, 6:10 PM
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I believe it was shop 64. The woodworking shop.

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Apr 26, 2022, 6:13 PM
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He worked there for 30 years. Retired about 1982 or 83. He was a year and a half short of full retirement but the doctors made him retire because of his emphysema. They never admitted changing batteries in nuclear submarines that were encased in asbestos might have contributed because he smoked his whole life. And he accepted what they told him and never challenged it. He was that kind of guy.

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Apr 26, 2022, 10:55 AM
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sitting on the front porch reading the paper

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reminds me of a meme - "You can't insult me. I held the

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Apr 26, 2022, 10:57 AM
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flashlight for my dad."

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sitting on our bass boat.***

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Apr 26, 2022, 11:01 AM
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Apr 26, 2022, 11:06 AM
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Great story!

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Apr 26, 2022, 11:15 AM
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I’m blessed as my Dad is still kicking, still preaching, and still involved on city council and with other groups at 82.

He keeps talking about getting a side job…lol he gave up Pastoring his church a couple months before my Mom past 2 years & 83 days ago but he’s still trying even with back & knee pain.

I only got one whipping I didn’t deserve, I was with my Dad visiting this real real real country family (Iversters) and they had 9-12 kids.

My dad was visiting while I waited outside, the kids loved his car that was a used 4 door Nova. They started climbing all through the car so I rolled the windows up and locked all the doors so they couldn’t get in it because I was scared they’d mess it up.

I’m sure it wasn’t a dream visit for my dad either…lol the catch was the keys were in the car and we were 30 minutes from home. The mom gave me a ride home to get the keys, my dad said I was going to get a spanking when he got back.

It’s hard to explain what you did when your 5-6 years old.

I got a good one but that is the only one where I was looking out for my parents best interests lol. My dad has apologized many times.

I’m thankful he is a man that keeps his word.

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I picture him leaving when I was about 8 after cheating on

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Apr 26, 2022, 11:26 AM
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my Mom for the (fill in number here) time.

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Sorry to hear that. An all too familiar story these days, it

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Apr 26, 2022, 1:13 PM
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seems.

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Apr 26, 2022, 6:55 PM
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My old man left, just before I was born. I didn't hate him, or love him. It's hard to have any kind of feelings for someone you don't know. However; I really began to resent him when my kids came along. When I was teaching my son how to throw a baseball, and how to block a man bigger than you, or tackle someone. How to shoot a basketball, sitting in a tree stand, freezing your butt off. That is when I began to have a lot of anger towards him. I never hated him, but I never forgave him either. Funny thing; I just told a bunch of people on a message board, something I've never told my own family.

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sitting in the boat at murrels inlet on a bright sunny

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Apr 26, 2022, 12:41 PM
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day catching big flounder and winter trout.

my dad loved to fish more than anything especially working.


resting in peace since 2008.


miss you dad

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Apr 26, 2022, 1:00 PM
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My Dad wasn't very mechanical (at least around the house) but he did teach me about the outdoors. How to respect and use a pistol and shotgun and never kill an animal unless you're going to eat it or to save your life
He trusted my brother and me enough to let us take the shotguns and hunt by ourselves when we were 10 and 11. I think that was because he hunted when he was that age to help his family put food on the table.

But the biggest memories of him are teaching me how to trout fish and explaining how to tell the difference of a gentle bite from a trout from a bump of a rock in the river. After fishing, he would fire up the Coleman stove and cook the fish we caught for a feast beside the river.

The last picture I took of him while fishing was with my, then, 4 year old son holding a stringer of trout. The torch was passed and it was my turn to pass it on.

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Great story, Saddis56!

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Apr 26, 2022, 1:15 PM
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:)

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Apr 26, 2022, 1:19 PM
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After I made a very difficult life decision that I was afraid would disappoint him - I still hear him saying: "I'm proud of you because you're my son, not for what you do..."

Greatest life lesson that I've ever been taught.

Thanks for making me think of this.

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My Dad did not dispense praise lightly at all. I can still

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Apr 26, 2022, 2:08 PM
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recall the three times in my whole life where he expressly told me he was proud of me.

1) The day I graduated High School.

2) The day I and my younger brother started work at 8 am with a bare block, and at 8:30 that same evening, handed the keys over to the owner of the pickup, with his newly rebuilt, newly reinstalled Chevy V-8 purring like a kitten.

3) The day I graduated from Clemson. (Of COURSE!)

Obviously, our family wasn't into a whole lot of "touchy feely" sentimental stuff. But, it was ALWAYS known, in the background, that our parents loved us, were proud of us, and would always have our backs, no matter what.

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That's exactly three times more than I got.

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Apr 26, 2022, 8:38 PM
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And my dad is still around.

But I know. Ya know?

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This is my wife’s parents. Blows my mind. How are you with

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Apr 27, 2022, 9:03 AM
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your kids ?

Do you hug and show affection and tell them you love them ?

Just curious - that particular family dynamic is so intriguing to me. I’ve never seen it in person until my wife.

classof1994® - We love you man !!!

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Yes I do. Very much so.

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Apr 27, 2022, 1:52 PM
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And humor. No household should be without humor.

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Why do dogs always race to the door when the doorbell rings? It's almost never for them.


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Apr 26, 2022, 1:58 PM
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Settling into the recliner in the living room after dinner, watching tv while "just resting my eyes".

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Pitching to all the neighborhood kids in our backyard after

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Apr 26, 2022, 2:18 PM
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finishing his 6PM Sportscast.

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Dad truly was my best friend . . .

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Apr 26, 2022, 6:03 PM
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and my Dad!!!

He is the reason I am a Clemson Fan. He attended one year in Tigertown after this High School Senior Picture was taken, then the Korean War called him away. While overseas serving behind the lines in some communications capacity and when war permitted the guys pitched horseshoes. Dad soon became known as one not to bet against.

He taught me early on how to chunk the shoes in a sweet single flip, heel over toe, sliding them neatly into the post. I was younger than ten when I started, but it wasn’t until I was a Senior in High School (hence the picture) when I finally beat him. He would come home from work, ask me if my “studies” were done and begin taping his right thumb . . . a wartime habit, as the toe calk would rub all the meat off his thumb . . . an indication of how much they “pitched”!!!

One of the many ways I think of Dad is to imagine him sitting at the dining room table taping his thumb and grinning about the whopping he was about to give me. It is worth mentioning . . . I only beat him that once!!! Dad wasn’t one to let anyone win to build their confidence. If you beat him, you earned it!!!

I love and miss that Clemson Gentleman!!!

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Freakin bulldozers man....

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Apr 26, 2022, 8:36 PM
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I have an old John Deere from the early sixties that my Dad's hoarder brother owned. He said it was used in the belly of cargo ships at the dock to spread grain and such as they were being loaded. Has four GINORMOUS D rings at all four high corners for crane lifting. It still cranks every time, but the brakes are shot to hades.

Now ask me about my MF35 with the Perkins diesel. Somebody will get her when they pry it from my cold dead hands.

Good stuff lately 72.

salute

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There was the time I spilled paint in the garage.

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Apr 26, 2022, 9:11 PM
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He put out two cigarettes on my forearm. Did I stutter???

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My Dad was an Army Commanding Officer during the

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invasion of Okinawa during WWII...and he remained the "Commanding Officer" in our family the rest of his life.

I never really considered him as a best or close friend, simply because he and I had different interests and opinions. We were cordial, but I have generally marched to the beat of my own drum most of my life, especially after leaving home at age 18, when I entered Clemson. Although gone now for 22 years, I will always consider him to have been a consumate gentleman, a dedicated and responsible servant of the Almighty, a true patriot, husband, Father and friend of many. The attendance and homages at his funeral attested to that.

Lastly, I have two, younger brothers and a younger sister (the youngest brother being a TigerNet member,) and I can honestly say that their exemplary lives are direct by-products of the influence of both my Dad and Mother. They are, also, the type of people I call "the salt of the earth," the fact of which I am exceedingly proud and fortunate.

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Apr 27, 2022, 8:53 AM
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Reading this post and the replies got me choked up. Dad is still alive and will turn 95 this summer but he’s in the later stages of Parkinson’s. Relish the time with your parents while you can, things can change on you.

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I know exactly what you mean. My Dad had some kind of

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medical event when he was 80 years old. Never lost his mental faculties, or physical. But, experienced an overnight personality change, from someone who always had to be doing something, to a person who never even wanted to venture out of the house anymore.

We do know from onset symptoms that he was in the beginning stages of Dementia, but I have never seen it change a person's personality the way my Dad changed. Others in the situation will know exactly what I mean when I say, I am glad that other health issues took him out of this world two years later, before the dementia had progressed much.

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Try to Guess My Dad's Name...

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Apr 27, 2022, 9:15 AM
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My dad's name is (believe it or not) Frank Howard. He is still going strong at almost 93 years young. I can only hope I live as long and healthy a life as he and my mom (who is also still alive at almost 93).

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Apr 27, 2022, 2:27 PM
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27 year US Army Retired Colonel
3 trips to Vietnam
1 stint in Korea
1 stint in Thailand
Forearms the size of a normal mans calves
He disciplined me once, age 13. I didnt need to be disciplined again.
I went back home to where he grew up and on the gym wall were school records still posted. At 5'11" and 190 lbs he still had the school shot put record 27 years after he left high school and points scored in a basketball game. Smoked but never heard him cuss, drank beer but never saw him have more than 2 and i would give up a years salary to play one more round of golf with him. He could hit it a mile, some will never be found but didnt care as long as everyone else was enjoying themselves.

Best part I was his best friend until my son was born and then I was replaced and I was good with that!

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Apr 27, 2022, 2:30 PM
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As my BEST FRIEND EVER - and I am 74!!!!

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Apr 28, 2022, 1:02 AM
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Two images always come to mind when I recall my Pop.

1.Pop was a Colonel in the Army in the early 60s and his last duty station was in Turkey. Weekday mornings a Turkish military car or jeep showed up and parked in front of our house in Ankara to drive Pop to work. The Turkish soldier driving the jeep always parked, got out,then stood at parade rest on the passenger side of the vehicle waiting for my Dad.

The image I have is Pop in his dress greens striding down the walk carrying a brief case, returning the driver's salute and getting into the vehicle. The driver shut the door and scurried around,got in and drove off taking Pop to his office downtown.

2. Pop loved model trains. EVERY year it seemed for Christmas one of us four boys got a new train set, or a new engine or cars or something to add to our trains.

In the second image Pop is lying on the floor on his side tinkering with the trains or the layout or maybe just driving a train around the layout as a couple of us helped him play with our trains. (I was pretty old before I came to understand he gave us all the things he wanted but did not get as a boy and he loved the trains, the new ball glove, the bikes and stuff at least as much or more than we did.)

I remember Pop as all serious business when in uniform or working around the house, but playing like a kid with toys, playing catch, hiking, cooking over an open fire on camping trips and just really having fun with us, or with the scout troop, or a ball team more or less like a big kid.

Pop has been dead 50+ years but he is alive and well in my head.

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