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All-In [36450]
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Marriage LOL
Oct 18, 2018, 12:03 PM
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I’m heading to mediation today so Ts and Ps for JFB please.
I have a hard time understanding how I have to pay a drug addict half my 401k half the buyout of the house... when she has no job, does drugs, lives w other users, and I have complete full custody of the 3 children, in the home, and not asking for an child support. Yet I have to hand her thousands of $$$ probably. F that.
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Where's the punchline?***
Oct 18, 2018, 12:05 PM
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110%er [9301]
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Sounds like your attorney s u cks***
Oct 18, 2018, 12:06 PM
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All-In [36450]
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He Is actually very good.
Oct 18, 2018, 12:07 PM
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But in SC if married for 10 plus years it’s a 50/50 split of assets. I am going to negotiate much less today of course, hopefully a check for about 5k will entice a signature today.
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110%er [9301]
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Depending on what she's on 5k may work
Oct 18, 2018, 12:09 PM
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Good luck
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Hall of Famer [20573]
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So don't SELL the house. Keep it. Then she pays half the
Oct 18, 2018, 12:09 PM
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house payment, right?
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All-In [36450]
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Lol. I wish
Oct 18, 2018, 12:11 PM
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I’m not selling the house. But half of nothing (no job) is still nothing. Maybe the govment will pay her child support?
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CU Medallion [64837]
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That would have been nice to tell me 2 years ago.
Oct 18, 2018, 12:11 PM
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Jerks.
Now I'm stuck for life.
JK, things with SarahAdidas couldn't be better. E
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All-In [35541]
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No you're not
Oct 18, 2018, 12:24 PM
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TOTE1 was married for 14 yrs (technically 15) and I kept all of my 401k. Now I gave up the house but we had just purchased it 100% financed 6 mos prior to the separation so there was no equity. 50% of nothing is still nothing.
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All-In [36450]
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But u mediated that right? It didn’t go to trial?
Oct 18, 2018, 12:27 PM
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I’m hoping today she folds. I’m also asking for all my attorney fees which has been a lot since she is at fault. So looking for a small check payout today and she signs.
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All-In [35541]
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I did mediate, we didn't have a judge decide our fates
Oct 18, 2018, 12:34 PM
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I paid the $2k for the mediation, she paid lawyer fees for court. Even Steven Of course she wasn't addicted to drugs and was able to make reasonable decisions.
Good luck
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That totally sucks ###
Oct 18, 2018, 12:08 PM
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Hopefully things will go better than expected.
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Marriage LOL***
Oct 18, 2018, 12:22 PM
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This sounds awful, did you mess up?***
Oct 18, 2018, 12:23 PM
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All-In [35541]
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He said Marriage LOL
Oct 18, 2018, 12:24 PM
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try to keep up
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Oculus Spirit [75725]
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Losing that stuff is as terrifying as if
Oct 18, 2018, 12:26 PM
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I married Sharkgirl and got stuck with her student loan debt.
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It is a gamble my friend***
Oct 18, 2018, 12:28 PM
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Oculus Spirit [97751]
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Without a payoff.
Oct 18, 2018, 12:54 PM
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THEY are the only ones who get a payoff.
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110%er [9101]
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ice cream sandwich***
Oct 18, 2018, 12:28 PM
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Oculus Spirit [93686]
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I have a couple thoughts that might console you a bit.
Oct 18, 2018, 1:29 PM
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Half of what you got is cheap for the kids.
Half of what you got is cheap to get rid of a drug addicted slut.
Half of what you got is cheap considering you'll never have to give her another penny.
Half of what you got is cheap to get your kids away from someone who has so much influence in their lives and it's most bad influence.
All in all she's getting fuked one last time and will probably kill herself in a drug overdose. You can blame the justice system now and the kids will figure it out on their own when they grow up.
You're coming out way ahead so stop whining and enjoy the good life while you raise your kids free of the bondage of marriage to a drug addict.
Living hand to mouth is only a bad thing when the hand is empty.
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Re: Marriage LOL
Oct 18, 2018, 1:31 PM
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I think there is some clause in SC marital law regarding
Oct 18, 2018, 1:32 PM
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how stuff is split up if the other person is "at fault". I would think that she could be subjected to some sort of drug testing to demonstrate that she is at least a drug user (as you mentioned) and then you could make an argument that she is an addict...and therefore "at fault" and not eligible for alimony. Perhaps you are already aware of this.
Better yet, years ago I was going through the same thing and seriously considered hiring a dude (that was an acquaintance of mine) to do his best to have sex with my wife so I could prove adultery. Again, the goal being to prove she was "at fault" and not eligible for alimony. I'm still not sure why I didn't go through with that. I think I was out $2700+ per month for 5 years until she finally remarried (Jesus F'ing Christ indeed). If you want some help pursuing this route let me know. I'll film it for you and everything.
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Demonstrate she is a drug user?
Oct 18, 2018, 1:38 PM
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JohnFBell should lay a couple lines out on the mediation table and let her sweat it out until she just gives up and starts ripping them like there aint no tomorrow.
Also, don't want to make light of his situation, sounds like it sucks, but this is the Jounge and that is what happens.
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All-In [36450]
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Solid plan is solid***
Oct 18, 2018, 2:01 PM
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Re: I think there is some clause in SC marital law regarding
Oct 19, 2018, 8:32 PM
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I’ll do you a solid and volunteer to be the dude to sex up your wife. I’m waiting by my computer for the where and when it will go down.
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Heisman Winner [105622]
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I Noah lady who is contemplating leaving her fam and
Oct 18, 2018, 1:36 PM
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banging a new dude (who is also married) and she is worried she will get killed in the divorce. I am pretty sure she is set for life cause Marriage, LOL in South Carolina.
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Heisman Winner [105622]
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Caveat - Greenr is neither of the men in this situation
Oct 18, 2018, 1:44 PM
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that he knows of. Could be Greenr, but not in this particular situation.
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Wait... are you the woman then??***
Oct 18, 2018, 1:58 PM
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Heisman Winner [105622]
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I can tuck it with the best of Key West's drag queens, butt
Oct 18, 2018, 2:01 PM
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this isn't about me.
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CU Medallion [66085]
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Is that so ?
Oct 18, 2018, 3:05 PM
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CU Medallion [54758]
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Re: Is that so ?
Oct 18, 2018, 3:30 PM
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Seems like if you're the one who files for divorce...
Oct 18, 2018, 3:22 PM
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unless you can show that you or your kids are being abused or abandoned, you shouldn't get nearly as much in alimony. Seems odd to reward somebody for breaking up a marriage and punishing somebody else who doesn't want the marriage ended.
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IMO, Women can claim they were verbally abused, neglected,
Oct 18, 2018, 3:28 PM
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or a variety of other things to make their case for NEEDING to leave. I wanted to put a different dick in my pussy is usually not claimed in that case.
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All-In [28802]
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Sure, that's the issue
Oct 18, 2018, 3:49 PM
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If you have somebody really selfish, I'm sure they'll have no problem with lying about that kind of thing.
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Re: Marriage LOL
Oct 18, 2018, 2:05 PM
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It’s the screwed up family court system and all the liberal judges in place. I was screwed over to by the family court system several years ago.
Will say a prayer for you. Good Luck my Tigernet Friend!
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Did she give up a career to raise kids when you wed?
Oct 18, 2018, 2:10 PM
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Stuff like that matters a lot more than when dividing marital assets than whether she is addicted to drugs now.
Like it or not, if she can demonstrate she gave up her entire career-earnings-potential to support you and the kids, she gets half of marital assets accrued during marriage.
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Oculus Spirit [93686]
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That's why I'm all in support of gay marriage.
Oct 20, 2018, 9:54 AM
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Who wants to deny gays the right to become victims of our divorce courts? Oh yes, I know. Some live happily ever after. That's the real American dream.
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All-In [36450]
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Update:
Oct 18, 2018, 6:25 PM
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That greedy B got more than I wanted but agreed and signed. And comparatively to paying for a lengthy trial plus how much equity I have in my home which is a lot, which I now own free and clear, plus full custody of kids. It really wasn’t too bad..
I kept thinking what ClemsonTiger88 said earlier about u got your kids and it’s over so shut your mouth and be thank full.
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What kinda droogz?***
Oct 18, 2018, 8:36 PM
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Blow, weed, LSD, booze, MDMA. Fentanyl***
Oct 18, 2018, 8:56 PM
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post/handle checks out.***
Oct 18, 2018, 9:00 PM
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Oculus Spirit [79429]
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So is she a festival chick or something?
Oct 19, 2018, 11:05 AM
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I'm still friends with some of those type people on facebook, it's like OK when you were in college whatever....But you're approaching 30 and still dressing up with glitter and tutu's, dancing in a muddy field, there HAS to be drugs involved.
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All-In [36450]
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Yes, we met at a Panic show.
Oct 19, 2018, 11:17 AM
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Saw over 100 together. I’ve seen about 250 panic. But then I grew up, got my MBA from TigerTown and got a corporate executive position, ditched all those old druggie friends. She on the other hand lived off me and no job, plus kept same friends.
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Oculus Spirit [81078]
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Marriage seems like pretty lucrative for chicks.
Oct 19, 2018, 11:21 AM
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Do absolutely nothing for a few years, then take half of someones shyatt. That could be a pretty good career.
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The key is not being dumb with who you marry***
Oct 19, 2018, 12:28 PM
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Oculus Spirit [93686]
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Glad these two lonely gray hairs on my head represent...
Oct 20, 2018, 10:03 AM
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how much adversity I've live through and how well maladjusted I've become Even to the point I'm like, #### em all. They can't take my Clemson Degree or my resolve to endure the ######### live dishes out.
I'm glad you see this as a win. Now pray for her everyday asking God to fix her life so your children won't grow up thinking their mother is a hopeless tramp. Never speak evil in front of them. I know you'll soon discover that you love her. I'd bet money, it might take a decade and you will probably go through another or two just like her but you'll eventually see that the bond between the two of you will never go away due to those precious children.
Perhaps after you work your way through this phase I'll have worked my way through mine and I can't plot out another acceptable and rightful vector for your path. Tsmel me when you get there. This has become embarrassing.
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