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Lot o points [155973]
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Lunge grandparents…..
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Hopefully I’m another 10 years or so from this stage, but I’m curious…how many of you relocated to be near grandkids? Wife and I are kicking around where we want to live for the next stage of life, and I feel like this is a real potential wild card.
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Candles, candles are always a good present.***
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Oculus Spirit [83131]
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Uh, that should be candlesticks.***
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D#$&^*t***
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Oculus Spirit [85339]
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Are both of your kids going to live in the same place
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Aug 3, 2023, 9:53 AM
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or do you love the daughter more than the son?
You can't make this call until the time is here.
I wished the in-laws had bought the dirty dollar ranch, but they were uninterested and fine with staying 45 mins away at the lake. Mom is 15 mins and dad is 30 mins.
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Re: Lunge grandparents…..
Aug 3, 2023, 9:54 AM
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Where are you thinking about as possibilities?
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Lot o points [155973]
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I like Kentucky a lot but
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Aug 3, 2023, 10:02 AM
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As long as I’m working that represents a 6+% decrease in my income at a minimum. That ain’t nothing.
Staying in state, I like Chattanooga a lot, and Knoxville is growing on me. Nashville is still great but the growth pattern over the decade I’ve been here, if it continues, will make it just too much for me.
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Re: I like Kentucky a lot but
Aug 3, 2023, 10:05 AM
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Yeah I like Chattanooga better than Knoxville, but Knoxville is really coming around. I spent a couple weeks in Knoxville a few months ago. I am not sure, but I think Chatanooga might be more expensive.
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My brother has expanded his georgia business into TN
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Aug 3, 2023, 11:07 AM
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and he and his wife have a pretty significant yearning for Chattanooga. They talk about moving there all the time.
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Lot o points [155973]
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It's sort of like Asheville minus the hippies and women with
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Aug 3, 2023, 11:11 AM
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armpit hair, with a nice river added in.
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Heisman Winner [105622]
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How dare you besmirch the fabulous
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Aug 3, 2023, 1:31 PM
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French Broad River
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CU Medallion [66085]
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Following for my purposes
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we will have one kid left at home after next year, and I want to sale our, now, oversized home but my wife wants nothing to do with it because, future grandkids.
At this rate I will never be able to retire ands move to Mauldin
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Heisman Winner [105622]
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So...I aint no GP but I will say, my Brother's wife's mom
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relocated to SC (from Ohio) to be closer to their family after her husband died. She also left behind a son and his wife in Ohio, but I cannot blame her.
I would 100% do that. Our plan is to relocate closer to one kid when they move away, preferably whichever one lives in a cool spot.
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If you're looking for someone to be your planning specialist
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Re: If you're looking for someone to be your planning specialist
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Always excited to be tagged into a post, but I’m confused on this one. My idea of a plan is to get in a car and start driving around until I see something that looks like fun.
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All-In [42907]
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So you are like the FSU of the lunge.***
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Re: What I'm saying is that if Obed needs help on planning when
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Probably not. I’m convinced I’m shooting blanks with the number of times I roll the dice and not pull out without protection.
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Re: What I'm saying is that if Obed needs help on planning when
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Aug 3, 2023, 1:31 PM
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#SlowChads
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Damson
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Aug 3, 2023, 9:57 AM
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Maybe get her out of college and gainfully employed before you have her breeding?
What if she decides she doesn't want kids?
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Lot o points [155973]
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Hai
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Pleased to read post again. Kthnxbye
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Samesies. We’re debating “bait house” vs. be closer.
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In retrospect, we wish we’d raised our kids closer to family. It helps in so many ways and with the WFH revolution, anyone can live anywhere, so it will be more feasible should we want to go that route.
OTOH, we would love to have a retirement house in a place we enjoy and that would entice the kids to visit often.
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Oculus Spirit [81078]
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a baitin' house? Wut?
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Thats just a backyard shed, right?
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Re: a baitin' house? Wut?
Aug 3, 2023, 1:55 PM
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No no, you’re thinking of the masturbatorium
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If kids are near Greenville, come on to Botany Woods.
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But must have custom golf cart.
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Let them do the travelling.
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I'll be hanging out on Sugar Mountain.
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kids can move after you get there, you know.
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Don't follow your kids around.
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Lot o points [155973]
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No doubt, I get that too. My in-laws have followed us
Aug 3, 2023, 10:18 AM
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twice
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I've been around my kids enough
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I'm moving to the mountains. They can follow if they like
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Oculus Spirit [81078]
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But you said you were saving casa Cooch for the youngins
Aug 3, 2023, 11:54 AM
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Because I'm certain they'll want to live in Coochville when they are ready to leave the nest.
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Didn't say I was selling the house***
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You'd need clear title to do that.***
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Lot o points [155973]
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Or just forge MeeMaw's signature.***
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Well it was an easy decision….
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Son, his wife and three grandchildren moved to Clemson. Wife’s family is from Picken’s County _ with family in Spartanburg, Greenville, Easley and Walhalla. My brother is still in Charleston. Beer is cheap and entertainment plenty in our old college town.
Location is a big factor.
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Well it was an easy decision….
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Son, his wife and three grandchildren moved to Clemson. Wife’s family is from Picken’s County _ with family in Spartanburg, Greenville, Easley and Walhalla. My brother is still in Charleston. Beer is cheap and entertainment plenty in our old college town.
Location is a big factor.
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Just sell everything and get
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a nice big motorcoach
I bet in Nashville you can pick up last year’s model from a failed singer song writer for well, a song.
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Re: Lunge grandparents…..
Aug 3, 2023, 10:19 AM
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Hopefully I’m another 10 years or so from this stage, but I’m curious…how many of you relocated to be near grandkids? Wife and I are kicking around where we want to live for the next stage of life, and I feel like this is a real potential wild card.
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I’m thinking about switching from iOS to anything else.
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I was trying to say that I hear Ohio is nice this time of year.
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Just sit back and watch the kids. They will give you the
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answer. If they had a happy childhood, they will likely stay around, or nearby anyway. If they hate your guts, they will move off to Idaho or some foreign country. In that case, you'd be wise not to follow them. Let them make their choices and you react to that. That's my plan, and I'm almost positive not the wife's plan.
It may very well be they hate your guts, move off, find out real life sux, and come back. You never know. But in general I don't plan to follow them unless specifically invited to do so, if they move away.
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In our family, 3 hours between families and grandparents
Aug 3, 2023, 10:27 AM
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is the correct distance. Makes a nice weekend trip or a reasonable day trip. Can get there pretty fast in an emergency. Don't have free babysitting but no pop-in visits from overbearing in-laws.
Your results may vary.
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When I/we had the twins we moved from Charleston
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Back to Gville to be close to both sets of grandparents.
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Not a grandparent but I hope this is helpful.
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My inlaw's friend has kids that have moved all over the country. She retired to the beach a few years ago. Grandkids have come along recently. Unfortunately, she was just diagnosed with dementia. She's now in a situation where the kids are all over (not close enough to assist in any way) and plan to keep moving. She is having to navigate whether to follow them or move back to her hometown where she still has some friends for help. It is a very sad situation and has driven home to the wife and I the downsides of a rootless lifestyle. In fairness, they didn't have the best family dynamics to begin with.
We are really blessed to have family close by, though several siblings and their families live out of state. We have foregone a few opportunities in bigger cities because we like where we are. I hope that my kids stay relatively close by when they are grown. I do not think I would follow them.
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Funny you mention that
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I mentioned earlier that our in-laws moved twice now to be near us and our kids (my wife's brother is a permanent bachelor with only the potential for accidental grandkids). When they decided to be near us the first time, they chose between moving near us and moving to Telluride, CO. They both have health issues starting to form and some memory issues too, and it would be an absolute nightmare if they were without a support system in a hard to reach place that was 6+ hours and $700 away by connecting flights every time we needed to help them or vice versa.
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My wife's grandparents lived in a small town in Washington
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state. They had roots there, and good friends, but no family younger than them. They are in their 80s and were in good health for their ages, but my MIL would have to go out there at least once a year for medical issues. They moved close to my in laws just in time. Since the move, one of them has developed serious problems due to old age. I really don't know what would have happened if they were still on the West Coast.
Good on you for taking care of your in laws.
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Current plan is downsize outta the big old house
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to a small one here and a small one in France. Stateside house will be near one of the chirruns obvi. The variable in the plan is of MsSlac goes grandbaby crazy.
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La France is pretty nice. Great access to smoking pig.***
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with a QT right down the street***
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Oculus Spirit [75725]
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Just get yourself the biggest and best RV and go wherever
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you want. Start with 19B's driveway though.
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Lot o points [155973]
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That's a world class catch-22 for me.
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I love the concept of a nice RV, but I absolutely, positively hate the FBC experience of the average campground.
I'd consider one if I lived out west and had a ton of BLM land that I could easily reach.
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At least you can pretty quickly escape the campground and go
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sleep in a Wal Mart parking lot if it is too bad.
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my in-laws are trying to move closer to us
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as described via t-male a while back.
I can't friggin' wait
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If I had it to do over, I'd steer them towards a sweet
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downtown high rise with a spare bedroom. Would be awesome to have a killer crash pad.
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we operate differently
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I'm trying to get em to join the other country club.
I have absolutely zero interest in going DT Nashville.
they're actually under contract on a house w/ contingency...trying to get their house in Franklin sold to some Cali bros.
given our situation, I don't see us leaving here anytime soon
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Nope.***
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Lot o points [163012]
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Kinda the opposite here. My plan was to sell casa in
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upstate and move to PI permanently. Grandkids show up in Simpsonville and now Asheville. Mama G ain't moving away.
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