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Think about being in RN's mother's position...

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:07 PM
 

This will only make sense to those of us with children, but imagine being thousands of miles away from your child when he makes one of the biggest decisions of his life. AND, when he makes the decision his choice is not even one of those under consideration.

Momma said, "We never discussed Clemson", so this commitment caught her totally off guard and why she believes RN must have been pressured. If we take off the biased glasses and put ourselves in a position of having our teenage child make such an important decision without us there and more importantly without us even remotely discussing it, I think we would all feel slighted and possibly angry. In this case, Momma Nkemdiche is angry at the coaches and not her son.

Where we see a grown man defensive end, momma still sees a child. You look at almost any animal species and you see how protective mothers are. I know my wife would probably react the same way, she is certainly way more sensitive about any slight to our children than I am. His mom is acting out of love. She may be ignorant of the qualities of Clemson, but she is acting out of love nontheless.

Anyway, this was my long-winded way of saying those of you making disparaging remarks about RN's mom are only decreasing the odds of him sticking with his commitment. I assume most if not all those making such posts don't have kids or are kids themselves.


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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:09 PM
 

No way i'd wanna live in Africa. No thanks to living in a place where 90% of living things want to kill you.

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:17 PM
 

Whoever TD'd this must be live from Somalia.

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Re: Think about being in RN's mother's position...

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:27 PM
 

How bout one more thumbs down, just because i like things to happen in 3s. Africa sucks.

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So you've been there or are you just a Peter Griffin?


Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:57 PM
 

nm


I've been to Africa a few times.

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:37 PM
 

Nothing's tried to kill me. In fact I've experienced kindness and generosity that I've never experienced here.

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:44 PM
 

through the cable news.

This explains everything you need to know.

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:52 PM
 



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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:15 PM
 



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Re: Think about being in RN's mother's position...

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:24 PM
 

As the father of an athlete at a major D1 school, I am proud to say my child took 4 official visits then made their decision as to where they wanted to attend school. I am thankful my wife and I raised kids to be independent. There are 3 levels of parenting, first you teach, then you coach and then you are a cheerleader . I love being a cheerleader.


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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:27 PM
 

I disagree and have two children, one getting old enough to think about college. I believe it is her decision on where to go. I won't be going with her and it is most important that she feels right going there. BTW, dads with kids are just as protective as moms - especially with daughters!:)

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:51 PM
 

Well said.

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:53 PM
 

Well said. I hope the Clemson family can win the heart and mind of the RN family; especially Mom.

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why are we even talking about his family?


Posted: Oct 12, 2012 7:51 PM
 

That's none of our business, frankly.

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Re: why are we even talking about his family?


Posted: Oct 12, 2012 8:06 PM
 

I'm talking about making his family feel like wanting to be a part of the Clemson family.

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Re: why are we even talking about his family?

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 8:09 PM
 

His mother made a public statement to the media. At that point, it is no longer a private matter. In her position, I would have talked to my son first privately and kept it a family matter.

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 9:48 PM
 

Best perspective I have heard. I do not have a kid yet but we are 10 weeks pregnant. People are so self centered these days that family just does not matter anymore. #### shame!


Re: Anyone that disagrees with you is an idiot.

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 9:52 PM
 

Guess I'm an idiot. I have two kids and totally disagree with the way she has handled. Of course, they live with us, not their high school coach so we might have a better feel for what they want and need.

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 9:53 PM
 




His mother hasn't even seen him play a complete game

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Posted: Oct 12, 2012 9:56 PM
 

his entire life. She has choosen to live in another country thousands of miles away from her children. RN has a legal guardian that is on the staff at his HS. Do you really think mom is going to be a major player in where he goes to school? This whole story is being driven by AJC and they aren't going to tell the whole story because it doesn't fit there conclusion.


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