Homesick post is SRS

Aug 15, 2014, 12:14 PM

The post on moving made me think. I graduated from Clemson in 2001. I've moved 5 times since then:

SC to DE (single)
DE to NJ (married)
NJ to PA (married, but barely after Jersey)
PA to VA (2 kids)
VA to PA (3 kids, in process)

I grew up on a tobacco farm in SC but after Clemson I got a solid job with my company and have been fortunate to do well with them and they have given me opportunities to progress in my career. Most of the promotional opportunities have required a move. And there is no way I could have progressed in salary of course but also enjoyment in my job. I do nothing related to engineering but I have lived every job more than the last.

For me, it has absolutely been worth it. It's a question of short term vs long term. Yes it's nice to be close to family and your home community NOW, but for me, my view was on the long term, changing my family tree. I grew up poor. We are not wealthy now by any means but financially we are comfortable enough to not worry about the basics, my wife can stay at home with the kids and follow her heart, and we've been able to establish our own family identity. None of this would be possible if we hadn't been geographically flexible. In fact my company shut down the plant I started working at and it has since burned to the ground, so I'd probably be unemployed or at least would have been forced into a different local job.

But there have been trade offs. We only get to 1 or 2 Clemson games a year, and it's tough sometimes on the grandparents, but they see the opportunities I've been given and understand that this isn't just about them. My kids are learning to make friends quickly and also to maintain long distance friendships. We've only really lived on the East Coast, but we've found joy in every place we've lived, even NJ! The world is getting smaller.

It's a personal and family decision, but for us, zero regrets on the moves. Now you know the real reason behind my user name.

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Homesick post is SRS

Does your stay-at-home wife have a MommyLife sticker on her

Wonder if his wife is single.***

Could be soon if he keeps burning plants down.***

Re: Wonder if his wife is single.***

No

Recently found out that my Dad, God rest his soul,

Most of my family hasn't left Western York County or Eastern

Don't be too hard on yourself.

I didn't vote for you.

Doesn't matter.

Yeah, this was sort of what I wanted when I made the post.

Re: Yeah, this was sort of what I wanted when I made the post.

Of all my first cousins on my Dad's side,

Re: Of all my first cousins on my Dad's side,

My dad found a woman who's content not getting

I wish my family was closer

I think there is something to the "grass is always greener"

I live in the same house as my parents while I build next

Living that close sounds like it could be annoying

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