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Heisman Winner [133730]
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Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 2:10 PM
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Wife commits adultrey with three guys. Is promising one she is going to leave me for him, God will make it happen, I'm the worst human on earth, sorriest excuse for a husband and daddy!! She wants DIVORCE bad and can't happen quick enough. Finally, I tell her that I have finally been able to retain a lawyer and divorce papers are ready to be served so we can go on with our lives....NOW, she is pissed as HE!! I thought she would have been glad. I don't understand!!
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 2:12 PM
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 2:30 PM
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seriously though I've never understood the dynamic of people marrying the people they cheated on their first S.O with. They are going to do the same thing to you that they did to them. I guess the old saying that some people deserve each other is very true.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 10:37 PM
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Yep, if they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you.
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Oculus Spirit [81628]
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Her fantasy world popped.***
Feb 5, 2016, 2:12 PM
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MVP [522]
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^^^Basically This^^^...
Feb 5, 2016, 2:27 PM
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Her anger is nothing but Fear. Let her be mad. The reality of her decisions are coming home to roost and she isn't ready for the hard bite of reality.
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Oculus Spirit [81628]
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Pretty much. I wouldn't recommend trying to destroy
Feb 5, 2016, 2:29 PM
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her life completely like below, remain calm and amicable, you two loved each other once and are both overall good people; however, you do not need to pander to her being upset. You can set your boundaries, it's up to her if she wants to abide by them.
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All-TigerNet [10567]
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Great advice--
Feb 5, 2016, 3:04 PM
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Get out, get going but remember you share a child and for the next 20 years or so you will share a child.
You dont have to take her calls, you dont have to answer her texts, shoot , you dont have to read them. But you have to share a child--
Been there, done that brother MFO. Still doing it.
And you so you know you arent the lone ranger, mine remarried 4 years ago. 3 months ago she found out I am considering remarriage ( considering !!!).
She blew 12 fuses,my cell phone, our daughters cell phone and anyone else that would listen
They are all crazy. BUT YOU SHARE A CHILD. NEVER FORGET THAT
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Re: Great advice--
Feb 5, 2016, 3:22 PM
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she's been remarried for 4 years and blew a fuse when she found out you are considering remarriage??
That's mucho cray cray.
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All-TigerNet [10567]
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Once you have been 11 under par---
Feb 5, 2016, 3:59 PM
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Shooting in the 90's just doesnt cut it!! She'll get use to him, if she can afford to feed him!
(if i knew how to make a LbB smiley face I would put it here )
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Re: Great advice--
Feb 5, 2016, 10:33 PM
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You won't share a child for the next 20 years, you will share a child for the rest of your lives.
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Im not reading all these post. Might want to find out if child
Feb 5, 2016, 10:50 PM
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Is his.
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All-In [32592]
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Popped ? You mean like the absolute pounding her
Feb 5, 2016, 2:58 PM
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ego is taking now that she realizes she has lost an awesome husband in #### ?
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your 1st mistake was believing you could ever understand one***
Feb 5, 2016, 2:12 PM
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 2:12 PM
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Hi there 117, you must've missed the part where ####
Feb 5, 2016, 2:20 PM
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asked for feedback from the "Smart people on TNET."
Therefore, one of two things have happened, either:
1) You didn't follow directions
2) You have an over-inflated opinion of yourself
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Re: Hi there 117, you must've missed the part where ####
Feb 5, 2016, 2:23 PM
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Yeah, that's pretty much
Feb 5, 2016, 2:29 PM
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spot on.
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Who really understands women....
Feb 5, 2016, 2:12 PM
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AKA TCI bashers
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110%er [7723]
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Don't give that b*tch a d*mn thing.
Feb 5, 2016, 2:14 PM
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That's just my 2 cents.
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Re: Don't give that b*tch a d*mn thing.
Feb 5, 2016, 2:59 PM
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can I TMial you my address so you can mail me your 2 cents? 
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Re: Don't give that b*tch a d*mn thing.
Feb 5, 2016, 3:00 PM
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TMI
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Who cares whether she's pissed?
Feb 5, 2016, 2:17 PM
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YOU'RE the one who should be pissed. Get rid of her as fast as you can.
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good luck..,
Feb 5, 2016, 2:25 PM
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Lots of it...b/c your life is sr*wed for years to come unless you start Shag Dancing to crazy Beach Boys or Eagles tunes down at Fat Harolds Club in Ocean Drive SC (know he died last year..fat)..
or get a RV so to follow Tigers to all away games ( plus you're gonna need a mobile home to escape bill collectors or more wild Wommens).
GoTiGERS !
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If she tries to get you to sleep with her
Feb 5, 2016, 3:54 PM
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DONT do it! It erases her past deeds and re-consummated the marriage so to speak.
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####, if everything you say is true, and there's not a
Feb 5, 2016, 2:19 PM
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valid "her side" of the story, then you should have a line of attorneys waiting for this case. Do yourself a favor and hire the best you can find. It may cost you more, but that decision will pay for itself many times over.
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what's to understand. Serve the papers and walk Away
Feb 5, 2016, 2:23 PM
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Can you give me her contact info?
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here's what i think
Feb 5, 2016, 2:23 PM
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she sees you as her safety net. she thinks that if this new guy is not what she hoped he would be that she can just come back to you.
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Re: here's what i think
Feb 5, 2016, 2:28 PM
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^^^^ this. Been there with a woman before. Wasn't married to the girl and wasn't married at the time I was with her either. All it is is stringing you along as a safety net. If the new guy is a ###### (which he most likely is) then she thinks she will run back to you.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!***
Feb 5, 2016, 2:24 PM
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 2:25 PM
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Do your best to keep the kids out of it. Don't talk bad about your wife to your kids. They will find out themselves. As far as they are concerned take the high road.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 2:30 PM
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I'd imagine she wanted to have her cake and eat it too.
She wanted to keep you on the back burner while doing lord knows what with these other dudes.
You burst that bubble and now she doesn't like it. it's like a kid not getting their way.
I'd heed GWP's advice too. Get the best lawyer you can, even though it seems you have a very good case against her, I've heard the courts side with the woman a lot of the time.
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I don't know SC divorce laws, but in NC #### would do
Feb 5, 2016, 2:34 PM
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very well. IF everything he says is 100% accurate and he has no fault. Plus he'd be able to sue all 3 guys that knocked the bottom out of it.
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All-TigerNet [12942]
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would he have to call witnesses from the
Feb 5, 2016, 2:35 PM
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tnet masses?
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Re: I don't know SC divorce laws, but in NC #### would do
Feb 5, 2016, 2:35 PM
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I like NC laws. I know a guy whose wife did the nasty with MANY outside dudes(and he had proof) and she's set up for life off of dudes money because SC court sided with her. She took it all so to speak.
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Crazy exes are like a box of chocolates....
Feb 5, 2016, 2:37 PM
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they will kill your dog.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 2:42 PM
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Adultery is unforgivable in my book. Get a good lawyer and don't look back.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 2:55 PM
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She probably just figured out that adultery is a criminal act in most states and therfore just lost all claims to any marital assets.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 2:59 PM
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If you think it is ever going to get any better, then just stop thinking that. It does NOT get any better - EVER.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 3:10 PM
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Reality has set in for her. If that guy drops her, don't answer your phone.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 3:09 PM
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Well, since you asked. Back up to the "Wife commits adultery with three guys..." part. Why do you care that she's mad and why do you want to understand?
There is nothing you can do to "make" someone commit adultery. That is 100% on her. Your not the worst husband and father you just happened to, unfortunately, fall in love with a woman that has a head problem.
Actually your in the cat birds seat. She commits adultery she doesn't get alimony, child support or custody of the kids. That isn't going to happen.
Gather the kids to you as best you can, don't let them be pawns between you and her and get her the #### outa yours and the kids lives.
Sorry for your problems. God is in there somewhere. There is life after her, really.
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One more thing--- and IT will happen..
Feb 5, 2016, 3:11 PM
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Just wait until you get engaged and remarried and buy a new house and move on with another woman.
Trust Me you havent seen full goose bozo crazy until then!
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Amen to that..***
Feb 5, 2016, 4:19 PM
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 3:27 PM
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Been divorced 8 year and my x is blowing my phone up right now. Get everything you possibly can on her and take everything from her. Then just change you number, email and any other way she can contact you.
GO TIGERS !!!
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 3:36 PM
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She'd be living at her friend's house or dead by now if she was my wife.
Bi+ch, bye!
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Apparently she's living at up to 3 friend's houses .... hth.***
Feb 5, 2016, 3:45 PM
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 3:44 PM
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whatever you do the last thing it should be is to consider staying with her. 3 guys??!!?? That's just dirty and if she's admitting to three there are probably more you don't know about. Follow through with
the divorce and kick her to the curb ASAP.
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get checked for STDs.***
Feb 5, 2016, 4:18 PM
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Re: get checked for STDs.***
Feb 5, 2016, 4:21 PM
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Seriously, ignorance is NOT bliss when it comes to syphilis and herpes.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 4:10 PM
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Just to be clear, was it three guys at once or three total over a period of time?
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Yes***
Feb 5, 2016, 4:20 PM
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Feb 5, 2016, 10:18 PM
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I have a buddy going through same thing. Your wife's name isn't Caroline is it? Or as we call her tyranohorous. My friends wife is so triflin she lies about going to work on days off for cancer fundraisers.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 10:24 PM
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the 3 guys, was this at the same time?
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 5, 2016, 10:36 PM
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Sounds like you married a crazy woman.
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You've probably been waiting for my response.
Feb 6, 2016, 8:14 AM
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Run, mfo.
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Best advice i have read is to be there
Feb 6, 2016, 8:23 AM
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For the kids. Don't talk bad about her. She probably will about you, but they will understand as they mature. Get the best lawyer! Not the best that you can afford, get the best. It will pay off.
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Re: Smart people on TNET...help me understand!!!!!
Feb 6, 2016, 9:37 AM
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Sorry you're going through this situation and as time drags on more damage will be done. She knows that you still aren't over her and she's taking advantage of that. Even though she's pursuing her own interests, she wants to maintain some control over you. Notice this is after she bumped into you and your new fox. If you really care about your lady, then be careful about how you deal with your ex. She will try to ruin this new relationship by trying to manipulate you. Don't know all the details so as always, eat the chicken and spit out the bones. Be strong bro!
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