Re: As a white man do you feel judged when

When I first got out of service, I worked as a construction grunt, in Virginia. I was the only white guy on the gang. From the time I met my room mate (he made very plain he did not like me and didn't want to share a room),things took on a very uncomfortable feel, to say the least. The thought quickly came to me, that I was going to be working in the deep woods and swamps with eight guys, that have made it plain, they don't like me. Thankfully none of them had murder in their hearts. At first the situation was so bad, I would usually eat by myself, at lunch time. After six months I was moved to another gang, and after six months of working together and getting to know one another, I was accepted by the guys. Well with the exception of two. In fact, the morning I left, two of the guys got up at five that morning to help me load my car, and one had been my chief antagonist. We all shook hands, gave our well wishes, and hopes to meet again.

I guess the lessons can be learned, that prejudice comes in all colors and nationalities, never judge a book by it's cover, or a man by the color of his skin, but by what's in his heart, and before you can really know what someone has to put up with, walk a mile in his shoes.

I know that people are people regardless of race or national origin. We can be good, or we can be bad. I do believe that God created us all with a basic goodness, sometimes I think it just gets lost. I think there are more good people than there are bad. Maybe we'll figure it out one day.

I also believe this, there is a day coming, I don't think I'll live to see it, but every person that calls this land home, whether African American, Hispanic, or Asian, white, or whatever, is going to have to unite, to save this country we call home.

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I helped cater an all black party (wedding reception)

Jun 10, 2020, 6:52 PM

when I was a teen. I was one of the quietest, nicest teens you could meet. Even if I had ill will toward someone, they’d never know it. During the reception, I was bullied by several tables like I’ve never experienced with any party. One guy I remember distinctly, asked me to fill up his tea (which was about a half inch from the top, no exaggeration) so I topped it off with as much as I could without over spilling it. I was about to walk away when he stopped me and said, “a little more.” The rest of the tables was laughing. I literally couldn’t put anymore in his tea without it spilling. It was clearly a power trip...there’s no other way to explain it. I had some other tables do similar things with their plates when I was clearing tables. I didn’t let it affect my attitude that night and it ended well. Most of the party was very nice. But, needless to say, I felt discriminated because I was white. On occasion during other parties, I’d have a white trouble maker every now and then...but I had never had so much heat from an all black party in one episode.

It’s unnerving experiencing it, but it was there. I wouldn’t wish discrimination on any one. It’s not fun being on that side and I’d never do that to someone else. I want people to stop pretending that racism is a one way street though. That’s why all this targeted rhetoric at whites is pizzin me off. If you’re trying to eliminate all racism, discrimination and bias from whites only, you’re only working with half the equation. If it’s origins are inwards and only display in outward expressions, then changing a law here or there isn’t going to solve the problem.

So if you’re asking about being treated differently in a predominantly black atmosphere, that’s the only experience that comes to mind. I’m a home body so I don’t get around too many people unless work demands it.

On a side note, I was groped by a women as a server. I wouldn’t have been half mad if she was attractive and wasn’t more than twice my age at the time. Serving sucks...

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As a white man do you feel judged when