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I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not

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Posted: May 18, 2015 1:41 PM
 

eat his vegatables. I'm being patient but he will not hardly touch them. He has nibbled one here and one there. I'm trying not to push them on him but I am encouraging him to eat them. Please let me know of any tricks or ideas any of you have.
Thanks,
MfO

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Tell him you'll take away his

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Posted: May 18, 2015 1:44 PM
 

cell phone :)

Think of something he loves to do, then offer that as a reward if he eats a certain number of bites of his veggies.

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Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not

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Posted: May 18, 2015 1:49 PM
 

Hide it in cheese... If he doesn't swallow. Hold your hand over his nose


Why not... works for my dog.***


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NO NOT Hold you hand over his nose!

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:02 PM
 

I couldn't eat vegetables for years after someone pulled that $hit on me.


Re: NO NOT Hold you hand over his nose!


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I sent that picture to my soon to be ex-wife who pulls for

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:20 PM
 

usc. told her it was a picture of a usc grad. She didn't think it was too funny.

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Put a dollar bill under them..

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Posted: May 18, 2015 1:55 PM
 

when he finishes , he keeps the cash

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beat his #### and tell him to stop crying

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Posted: May 18, 2015 1:59 PM
 

Is what big daddy would probably say.


Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not

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Posted: May 18, 2015 1:59 PM
 

cover them in butter or cheese. It is better he eats veggies covered then not eating them at all. I find the veggies he will eat and rotate them. Carrots, Beats, broccoli, and French style green beans were the ones my kids liked best.

Good luck. I know it is difficult but your child will be much healthier if you make sure he eats veggies and fruit.


smother them in alfredo sauce***

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Posted: May 18, 2015 7:55 PM
 




So far, you have done the right thing by not

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:00 PM
 

posting this question in the lounge.

;)


Re: So far, you have done the right thing by not

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:05 PM
 

Clockwork Orange treatment and extended Popeye cartoons.



THEN




I AM NOT SERIOUS!

TIME IS THE ANSWER - AND YOU EAT YOUR VEGGIES!

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Don't worry

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:11 PM
 

about it. My younger brother will be 42 and I think the old veggies he still eats is green beans, if that even qualifies. I think he is probably healthier than 80% of the people I know. Besides, most people have to "grow into" the veggies.

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Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:12 PM
 

Tell him you are sending him to South Carolina if he doesn't start eating his veggies- or start calling him a coot. That should do it. Seriously though, my little guy will only eat green beans with cheese on it- whatever works.

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No easy solution

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:14 PM
 

First, get what you can take. Nibbles are a start.

Try to make it fun with raw veggies, like pretend they are dinosaurs eating trees (broccoli) or see if you can eat the outside of a carrot and leave the core. Using ranch dressing may help.

You can also try in the moment bribery. if there is a favorite dish or side, they have to eat a bite or a piece of the vegetable before getting some. Can stretch that out a couple of times.

Be patient, consistent, and persistent


Tell home u want to race green beans and see who wins...

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:17 PM
 

Let him win most the time, but he will race you and eat most of them.

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You sound like a race baiter..

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:18 PM
 

are you a race baiter?

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i wouldn't worry about it until he's old enough

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:19 PM
 

to throw a curve ball, whenever that is; that's when real debate begins.

;)

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Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:30 PM
 

I have a little one who just turned 5 and fortunately for us he is not a picky eater.

However, there are plenty of other things around the house that take some coercion on our part, and we got tired of the threats and punishments that weren't working, so maybe you could try something like this with yours;

We made up a little chart on the PC with various tasks for each week, e.g., make up your bed, pick up your toys, put away your dirty dishes, etc. For each day he does said tasks, he gets to put a sticker on the chart (we make a little ceremony out of it after supper usually).

He only gets to put a sticker on the things that he did without us asking, and then at the end of the week we total them up. If he gets a certain number, like 17 or 18 I think, for the week he gets a "prize". Usually a trip somewhere he likes, or maybe a small toy he has had his eye on.

In only a few weeks he realized the things he could do quickly and easily to get points, like put his dishes in the sink, and started doing those religiously so he could skip the harder tasks, like vacuuming his playroom... which he will only do if he sees that the end of the week is coming and he doesn't have enough points yet.

I would think something like this would work great, and you could just put eat your veggies on the chart in one of the spots. Good luck, and mainly don't force the issue, just keep the topic open and try to keep it fun.

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Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not

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Posted: May 18, 2015 4:06 PM
 

I know most will not agree with me...but why should a child get a reward or prize for doing what he is supposed to do. I think that is a lot of what is wrong with kids today....want a reward for everything and refuse to do what parents or other authority figures tell them to do. Too much entitlement these days. You get a child used to that and as he gets older the prizes get more and more expensive and the child becomes very spoiled. They will never appreciate anything


Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not


Posted: May 18, 2015 5:11 PM
 

Maybe so, but I feel like taking him to the park or getting him a toy from the dollar store for a week of doing the "things he is supposed to do" is helping him learn a bit about how the real world works.

He doesn't get much other than that, except Christmas and birthdays, so why not us a reward system along with punishment.

I don't know too many 4 and 5 year olds who go in and willingly clean up their toys and vacuum, then go put their dirty clothes in the washing machine without even being asked; so I'm pretty happy with the way it's working right now in our house. I'm sure it will change as he gets older and realizes the time value of money and learns some basic economics, but right now if I can keep him doing his chores and cleaning up after himself for $2 a week, and he's smiling and happy about it, I'll keep that up.

Believe me, I wouldn't do half of the things "I was supposed to do" at work during the week either, if it weren't for that juicy paycheck on Fridays ;)

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Add cheese or ketchup !

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:38 PM
 



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don't push him at all but also don't give him alternatives

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Posted: May 18, 2015 2:45 PM
 

This is what's for dinner. Period.
Also cut out all desserts for everyone unless special occasion or eaten separately. Don't withold dessert unless they eat their veggies - veggies should not seem like a punishment and dessert should not be a reward.
Had same problem with both my kids and both ended up eating and liking their veggies. Also both are now normal weight active young adults.


Tell him vegetables are what puts the lead in your pencil

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Posted: May 18, 2015 3:05 PM
 

He may be a little young to appreciate that now but one day he will love you for it.

;)

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Posted: May 18, 2015 3:06 PM
 

Asking for a friend.

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Posted: May 18, 2015 3:12 PM
 

He said he wouldn't eat 'em for a month...


Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not

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Posted: May 18, 2015 3:32 PM
 

I tell my 3 year old whatever is on his plate is mine and do not touch it. I'll say, those are my carrots, you better not eat them. He laughs every time thinking he's doing something he isn't suppose to, and every time he can't eat em fast enough. Every now and then we have to use bribery, or tell him he can go outside and play if he eats whatever he doesn't want to touch. Whatever works in that moment.


haha- works on grown-arsed coots too***


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Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not


Posted: May 18, 2015 8:05 PM
 

You're right . Make a game of it and it will be a lot more likely he'll learn to like them .

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Posted: May 18, 2015 3:52 PM
 

Take half cup of frozen blueberries, half or whole banana, throw in a stout handful of spinach, some carrots, maybe even some broccoli. Add half cup of milk and whirl it in the blender.
Add some vanilla prot powder if your wirried about protein intake too.. or a tbsp peanut butter.
Delicious.. for real. Give it to him early in the day, then put some veggies on his plate at night. He'll drink the smoothie. If he nibbles some at night its just a bonus until he comes around when he is older.

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This has worked for every person I know....

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Posted: May 18, 2015 3:58 PM
 

if he does not eat his veggies, just let him get up from the table,,but make sure he knows he gets no snacks or anything other than water until next meal time. you HAVE to make sure you follow thru, if not he knows you will cave in. Start with simple things like green beans and insist that he eats at least one bite of the other vegetables offered. There may be some veggies he just simply does not like, but you will be able to tell the fake "gag" from the real one. He will scream and cry and pitch a fit between meals, but do not give in. Eating habits can be just like punishment,,,,don't threaten. Follow thru with what you say will happen. Don't beg him or bribe him to eat. If you do that, he will expect a reward for everything you ask of him. Don't serve him a different meal that what the family eats...that is a reward and he gets his way. IF you are consistent with this...and be ready for some fits...he will start eating just fine. In the meantime, make sure he gets vitamins every day.

IMO, kids not eating veggies or not doing what you tell them is their way of controlling. If you get hold of that now, your later years with him will be a breeze. CONSISTENCY is the name of the game.

You can not feel sorry for him if he begs between meals. Don't let the guilt he will throw on you get to you. Don't let mom's guilt get to you. I promise, if you are consistent with this for about a week, he WILL eat what is on his plate.


Also...

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Posted: May 18, 2015 4:12 PM
 

do not give him any juices at least an hour before mealtime,,,especially apple juice. I had a grandchild that lived on apple juice all day and when mealtime came around, she would not eat much at all. I read an article about how something in apple juice makes you more full and tells the brain that you are full. I stopped the apple juice when she was with me,....and she ate very good at mealtimes


Also agree with cutiger250.. we did that too


Posted: May 18, 2015 4:12 PM
 

and still do. Mine is now 13yo, and the consistency without anger has made the expectaitions clear and without any battles.

Good luck! Oh, and keep in mind the developmental stagesof your kid. It helps.

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You sound like youve raised kids or something......lol


Posted: May 18, 2015 4:25 PM
 

this was the exact approach mine used.....until, of course, Mom got exasperated momentarily...then the magic flyswatter appeared and you STILL didnt get anything else to eat until the veggies disappeared.

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Posted: May 18, 2015 7:07 PM
 

Sounds like we had similar approaches. I ended up with 2 Clemson grads and great all around people.


Good luck, my 13 year old is STILL that way***


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Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not


Posted: May 18, 2015 4:13 PM
 

Veggie Straws! Duh!

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Posted: May 18, 2015 4:20 PM
 

I hear waterboarding can be an effective tactic.


He could have a V8!***


Posted: May 18, 2015 7:11 PM
 



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Posted: May 18, 2015 7:32 PM
 

"If you don't eat your veggies you'll turn into a coot."

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My son fell asleep at the table because we told him


Posted: May 18, 2015 7:57 PM
 

He couldn't leave until he ate his broccoli. Today he is 30 and eats broccoli raw and cooked. He will grow into it. Give him multivitamins and wait. It won't kill him or turn him into a Coot.

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Posted: May 18, 2015 8:15 PM
 

I raised 3 boys who hardly ate anything until they were 12 or 13 . We always had vegetables available but they preferred candy and pizza or chicken nuggets . By their later teen years they're appetites picked up and ate most all vegetables . Now they grow gardens and love them . Time did the trick for them .

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Grill him up a 1/2# burger medium well with lettuce, tomatos


Posted: May 18, 2015 8:19 PM
 

pickles and onions.


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Posted: May 18, 2015 10:38 PM
 

Both of our kids were picky eaters. We always insisted they eat at least two bites of stuff they didn't like. It might only be two beans. At 13 and 17 they eat pretty much anything. Every kid is different.


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Posted: May 18, 2015 11:29 PM
 

I had the same problem when my son was 4. The doctor said as long as he was growing and gaining weight and acted normal, then he would be fine. Just leave him be, and someday like my son, he will eat his veggies. Stop worrying if he is not suffering from malnutrition.

But don't feed him a steady diet of McDonald's or other fast-foods.


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Posted: May 19, 2015 12:44 AM
 

The real problem. Put cheese on them, put butter all over them (which does actually defeat the purpose of eating them in the first place). Reward him.

How about tell him that he doesnt get up from the table until he eats them? If he throws a fit, spank him. Thats what my parents did, and I obeyed. And I love them and we have a great relationship today. All other conversation is just a way of putting a bandaid on the problem of not having authority over the child. Not saying you have to be Hitler with him, but parents worry toouch about being liked, instead of being respected. I ate things I didnt like. My Mom would say if I wasnt hungry when we ate dinner I didnt eat. No eating later. I went to bed hungry sometimes, trying to prove my point. She was more headstrong than me. Right now its put cheese or butter all over them, next its buy them an iPad just so theyll do their homework. How about tell them to do it, and make them do it. In a way that shows them its important. Eat yours, show them that they need them (to grow, be strong, whatever they understand), then make them. No offense, I dont mean to put down your parenting, so please dont take offense, just offering my advice and criticism you asked for. Good luck and go Tigers


Spanking your kid for not eating vegetables is stupid and counterproductive


Posted: May 19, 2015 1:02 AM
 

He will then associate vegetables with a negative experience and subliminally will always hate them. He'll be 30 one day and still despise them bc he will coorelate broccoli with abuse, even if he genuinely enjoys the taste. Kids are picky, he eat them when hes ready. Any harm from not eating broccoli, spinach, etc. is far outweighed by psychological harm of being hit because of it.


Re: Spanking your kid for not eating vegetables is stupid and counterproductive


Posted: Sep 30, 2015 10:37 PM
 

Ridiculous. I'm literally that 30 year old right now, (turned 30 this month), and that couldn't be more hogwash. If an adult, who has learned the significance of diet, is still traumatized by having to eat them as a kid, it shows that the parents were disciplining the child without explanation. When I looked at brussel sprouts, I think, I still don't like them, and I eat other things, like broccoli and peas, but my parents loved me enough to not let me eat crap all the time. They actually explained it.

With discipline, I've learned that there are some many wrong ways to do it, that people assume every way is wrong but their own. Spanking can be terrible, IF you don't do it the way it should be done, where your child knows you love them and it's a long term solution for respect, obedience, or good behavior. I think most people that got spanked the wrong ways, such as a parent just reactively hitting them out of frustration or anger, left a negative impact on them when it comes to that form of discipline. Why would I be an advocate of spanking or negative reinforcement if I had to go through it and it was as you say it is? Maybe, just maybe, it's not all the same.


Ranch dressing to dip em in. Works every time.***


Posted: Sep 30, 2015 10:42 PM
 



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Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not


Posted: Sep 30, 2015 10:49 PM
 

When you figure it out, let me know how you did it. My 5 year old will not eat his vegetables either.


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Posted: Sep 30, 2015 10:58 PM
 

Coat the vegetables with boiled okra


Does he have any adversion to different "textures" of food


Posted: Sep 30, 2015 10:59 PM
 

Other than vegetables? Are there other sensory issues? i.e. Can't tolerate wearing certain shirts, smells, sounds.

My child had "sensory integration disorder". He would throw up at the sight of certain foods or smells. He felt like he was choking if he wore certain shirts. Could not tolerate certain smells or certain food textures. We noticed a lot of this earlier than age 4.

It was weird he would eat raw vegetables, carrots, celery, lettuce, spinach..virtually anything raw. Nothing cooked.

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