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Heisman Winner [134207]
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With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 27, 2014, 7:21 AM
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separate. I fought hard to keep this marriage alive but there was too much to overcome. I wish her the best and a happy life. Thanks for the support you all have given me during this time.
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Legend [16439]
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Sad to read this
Mar 27, 2014, 7:29 AM
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Things will get better. Hang in there.
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All-In [25393]
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Very sorry to hear for both of you. Perhaps, a little
Mar 27, 2014, 7:33 AM
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distance and time may give each of you a chance to reflect on the love that initially formed your union.
Please, accept my best wishes and regards, as well as fervent prayers that that same love will triumph.
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Orange Blooded [3257]
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Ditto and God Bless. Hartins siad as well as can be said.***
Mar 27, 2014, 1:35 PM
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Legend [16439]
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Did you have to say "union"?
Mar 27, 2014, 7:42 AM
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Sorry, couldn't resist. I know that this situation is anything but funny.
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Oculus Spirit [96831]
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I almost gave this post a thumbs down :(
Mar 27, 2014, 8:05 AM
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Sorry to hear this, but like hartins said, maybe during the separation period you'll realize that you do still love each other and want the marriage to continue.
Prayers your way!
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Orange Blooded [3245]
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Sounds like his love isn't the problem
Mar 27, 2014, 8:17 AM
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Stay classy MyfavOrange. Try to spend time around people that do care about you. Every human being deserves a little love.
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All-TigerNet [11161]
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Always hate to hear this...the best to both of you.***
Mar 27, 2014, 8:27 AM
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Orange Blooded [4999]
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 27, 2014, 8:35 AM
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Sorry to hear that man. Hey, if you are ever in middle GA, give me a holler...We 'll go out and find you an anger bang.
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 27, 2014, 8:38 AM
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sorry to hear. all the best to both of you as you work through this
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Orange Blooded [3924]
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 27, 2014, 8:41 AM
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Hang in there. Whatever comes of this just know that it will be OK eventually. I have been through this once before and it isn't easy but you can overcome. Prayers are with you.
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 27, 2014, 8:46 AM
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Being a person who has been divorced three years, I would highly recommend you try harder. It is really difficult on the other side. There are so many unexpected changes that are too numerous to count.
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Orange Blooded [2828]
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 27, 2014, 9:44 AM
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I'm sorry to hear the bad news my friend. I know you put a lot of effort into making things work. I know it's hard to believe now but life will get better again. I went through a divorce in 99' and it was rough.
In 2005 I remarried a wonderful woman and we have been blessed with two wonderful children and a happy life together. Stay busy, do things with your friends, pray a lot and forgive yourself. You will get through this and life will be good again. God bless.
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Orange Blooded [4521]
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Sorry, I will not condone your quitting.
Mar 27, 2014, 9:45 AM
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What God hath brought together, let NO MAN put asunder.
That includes you.
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Oculus Spirit [96831]
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I don't think separation = quitting
Mar 27, 2014, 9:47 AM
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And if you've been keeping up with his situation at all, you'd know it's not him who "quitting".
Jerk.
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Heisman Winner [134207]
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Let your wife cheat on you and then you try to work it out
Mar 27, 2014, 10:44 AM
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and everything is your fault. You take care of the child 75% of the time while you wife sets on the couch watching TV, do 80% of the clothes, 75% of the housework, all the cooking, ironing, dusting, mopping, sweeping, yardwork, take care fo the vehicles, spend all day and night Sunday at her parents house, play with her hair, rub her feet, shoulders, legs and then you're told you don't do enough and that she wants more romance. It just didn't work. Believe me, I didn't quit, I just got smart.
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Orange Blooded [3311]
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Our prayers are with you at this tough time. It sounds like
Mar 27, 2014, 10:51 AM
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you did all you could. Good luck to having a great future as you move forward with your life.
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Re: Let your wife cheat on you and then you try to work it out
Mar 27, 2014, 1:31 PM
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Sheesh - I just read your plight man - IMO you should have hung up those cleats a long time ago. Better days are ahead. Trust me (even though you don't know me). My second marriage is in it's 32nd year, and it's great. BUT - BOTH of you have to work at it as neither of you are perfect.
I feel your pain though - separation / divorce is always painful IMO. Good luck.
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Re: Let your wife cheat on you and then you try to work it out
Mar 27, 2014, 10:07 PM
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No offense my friend and again I am very sorry for your situation, but d@mn man she's got to be near 250-300 pounds if she really doesn't do anything but take up space on the couch. Consider yourself a lucky man and go back to the drawing boards and go hit some @$$. Much luck to you.
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Virtuoso [656]
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M grandma got divorced early on,
Mar 28, 2014, 11:35 AM
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Because her husband was cheating on her, and they just weren't meant to be together. She later when onto marry my grandpa, who sadly passed away shortly before my moms marriage, but my grandmother had three kids with him, including my mom. They were very happy up to the point of his death, and she still tells me about how great he was. You'll go on and find someone who truly appreciates you and you will be happy.
Also, I don't know your religious background, but my grandma is a devout Christian, and after she was divorced, she just asked God for forgiveness and forgave herself, and she is the most Godly lady I know. So, just because you're being divorced doesn't mean, as Beegshot insinuated, that you will be going to the firery place, or anything of the sort.
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Re: Let your wife cheat on you and then you try to work it out
Mar 28, 2014, 1:10 PM
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Amen brother, that's all you can do, obviously it's not for a lack of effort on your part, time to move on. She will look back in a couple years and realize what a royal b1tch she was and that nobody else will put up with her a$$! Make the best of it and have a little fun if you can!
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Hey Bro
Mar 28, 2014, 2:18 PM
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Same thing happened to me 2 years ago!!
I'm in there with ya! I am divorced and living a much better life now without all of that on my mind and constantly wondering if what she tells me is the truth or not!!
Hang in there chief!
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Oculus Spirit [96831]
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You were married? I didn't know that. When you said you
Mar 28, 2014, 3:29 PM
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were almost 40 and single I just guessed...well, you know.
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All-TigerNet [10498]
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Man you deserve so much better than that
Mar 28, 2014, 3:27 PM
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You sound like a better person than most, putting up with it this long for the sake of your family. I think you are doing what is for the best though. In a situation like this the other party has already destroyed the relationship, initiating divorce is only the piece of paper formalizing it.
Message was edited by: CTiger423®
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Junkie [569]
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Interesting perspective
Mar 27, 2014, 11:46 AM
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Let's just say, for the sake of argument, that God had nothing to do with their arrangement but it was mere coincidence that they found one another. Ultimately they found they were not the best match and should try something else. Later he found a woman that made him more happy than he could have ever imagined and was truly "the one" for him. So I must ask, was God responsible for both unions equally? Or only the second one? Or did he use the first marriage as a juxtaposition so the second marriage would be ideal (in which case your argument is invalid since he had to break the first union off to find his "true" love). Either way, I hope you realize cute mantras or quotes from scriptures don't literally apply to all situations. I digress, best of luck to you MyFav and i have tremendous faith everything will work out for you since you seem to be a kind-hearted individual.
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Re: Sorry, I will not condone your quitting.
Mar 27, 2014, 12:23 PM
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Rust Cohle: Transference of fear and self-loathing to an authoritarian vessel. It’s catharsis. He absorbs their dread with his narrative. Because of this, he’s effective in proportion to the amount of certainty he can project. Certain linguistic anthropologists think that religion is a language virus that rewrites pathways in the brain. Dulls critical thinking.
Marty Hart: Well, I don’t use ten dollar words as much as you, but for a guy who sees no point in existence, you sure fret about it an awful lot; and you still sound panicked.
Rust Cohle: At least I’m not racing to a red light.
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CU Medallion [52247]
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Heisman Winner [134207]
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All-In [30826]
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Too much apologizing in here.
Mar 27, 2014, 10:02 AM
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This situation calls for Johnnie Walker Black, a couple of Cubans (cigars or women), the most expensive meal at Western Sizzlin' in Clemson and a late night drive through the alphabet streets in Anderson with a couple of twenties in your wallet!! Better days are ahead, my friend!
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All-In [26326]
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Be pro-active and lawyer up.
Mar 27, 2014, 12:26 PM
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Trust me.
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Legend [17626]
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^^^^^THIS!^^^^^***
Mar 27, 2014, 6:58 PM
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Re: Be pro-active and lawyer up.
Mar 28, 2014, 7:58 AM
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Going to divorce court with out retaining an attorney, is like going to a strip club broke
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 27, 2014, 6:28 PM
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Hang in there my friend. Best wishes.
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 27, 2014, 6:34 PM
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you going to be okay
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I thought I had a bad day....nope my 2 cents
Mar 27, 2014, 6:37 PM
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Get a good Lawyer trust me.
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Orange Blooded [4412]
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 27, 2014, 7:15 PM
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been there, done that. trust me. it gets better.
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 28, 2014, 11:17 AM
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Praying for you and you wife
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I am both shocked and impressed
Mar 28, 2014, 12:22 PM
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No one has yet to give the obligatory "Pics???" post
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Oculus Spirit [96831]
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Hey we can show some class
Mar 28, 2014, 12:24 PM
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at least once a year.
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CU Guru [1838]
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yeah, try that in the Lunge***
Mar 28, 2014, 12:26 PM
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Re: With a heavy and broken heart, my wife and I are going to
Mar 28, 2014, 5:07 PM
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I am truly sorry to hear this, MFO. Things, no doubt, appear bleak now but they will get better. Lawyer up and get back in the game. In my experience, nothing helps more than putting one in the dust and getting some different honey on the stinger.....
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