Re: Somebody help me understand women. I'm 44 and thought

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Re: I've got to hand it to you on your post CT1988. That well

Jul 21, 2013, 10:50 AM

Don't get yourself distracted by reading a woman's instruction to be submissive. That really is none of our business. It's God's place to handle that part of a woman's heart. I can't address how this works for a woman. God has not made us privy to that working for we have not the facility to understand. The Boss says do your job.

You really ought to read this prayerfully for it's the secret to a happy marriage.

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Ephesians 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

Ephesians 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

Ephesians 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

Ephesians 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Ephesians 5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

Ephesians 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

Ephesians 5:32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

This exercise, should you choose to undertake it, is like anything else. Your gauge should be whether or not you are loving her like Christ loved the church and not how she is responding. Focus on yourself so you won't get distracted.

When you fail go to God and He'll give you the strength to go at it better next time. It's a tough thing to do when a man puts a woman's and child's best interest at the center of his heart but that's our obligation to God. You can't love God without putting your family first.

She doesn't really want to go to all those favorite places, she really doesn't want to control your every action. What she really wants is a man who's able to put her best interest and the best interest of her child as his top priority. The problem here is she doesn't know what's best for her and she's making your life miserable because you don't either.

What's best for her is you to love her like Christ loved the church.

Your obligation just increased exponentially along with everyone else who reads this. My guild of having a 30 year marriage fail is overwhelming me now so I'll bow out of this thread.

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First, your wife sounds like a control freak. No matter what the situation is, she wants the control as to when and where. Turn the table on her and she will not even know you are doing it.

First, a day or two before you are going to do your manly chores, tell her that WE need to get some things done on, say Saturday. Make a list like mow the lawn, vacum the house, clean the bathrooms. Ask her which one she wants to do (she will think she is controlling the situation) If she says she does not have time to do these things, just reply that I really thought you cared enough about me to help out. Tell her if she will help you (again she thinks it will be her decision) that it will be done and then we can go out and have a nice dinner. This way it helps you out, too. You don't have to cook and she loves to go out to dinner.

If she does not agree, just mow the dang lawn and take the kid out to McDonalds for some daddy/son time.

Stop giving in to her every demand. Stop going out to dinner. If you have to do all the cooking, just fix P&B samwiches.

Bottom line, find a way to make her think whatever you do was her choice and she will be just fine. Doing that will not give her the option to raise hell about what you do. You can always tell her "this is what YOU wanted me to do."

And please.....raise your son as a Tiger and not a chicken. Make him a real man.

Somebody help me understand women. I'm 44 and thought

Could have something to do with your wanting to mow

I never should have married a gamecock. Huge mistake!!!

^^^An ominous sign....Might better learn to do the yardwork

Re They only mow their lawns twice a year, if that.***

^^^And that's for grazing purposes only.......lol***

Re: I never should have married a gamecock. Huge mistake!!!

You married a Coot?

Re: I never should have married a gamecock. Huge mistake!!!

How often have you been mowing HER grass?

It is real grass. I cant make her happy no matter what I do

They like to nag, its not about mow or no mow.***

When it comes to money, she wants mow.***

pro tip: it's not about mowing, it's about something else.

What else is it about? TIA***

probably "you love mowing more than you love me", that's

"hmmm, bob never says he loves my coffee".....is that a pun?***

i see your problem may be following directions...

I need some more information.

I couldn't find the keys and asked her if she knew where

I'm not understand what the problem is here.