Lunge marriage advice needed ... Wife of is mad about

Dec 22, 2022, 1:52 PM

something. Snapping my head off about everything. Getting in digs at me at every opportunity. Not laughing or joking around. Stand-offish. Yet, she says, of course, "I'm not mad. Nothing's wrong", and "feels fine". We've been married for almost 30 years now, so I've been through this before. Usually I find out eventually that I had done something, said something, or didn't do something, that offended or disrespected or hurt her in some way. I, however, just being a dumb man, have no clue what it could be and don't find out until I have been sufficiently punished.

I know many other Lungers are married, and have probably been through something similar. So, I'm trying to compile a list of possible offenses I could have committed so I can go about setting things right. Here's a starter list based on past experience:

1. I forgot some date, not like our wedding anniversary, but like our first date, her sister's birthday, etc..

2. I made what I believed was a totally innocuous comment, with zero disrespect or ill-will intended, yet she found highly offensive or hurtful.

3. She is off of her meds.

4. It's all my imagination.

5. I fart too much.

6. Almost forgot, and it's one of my favorites - I cheated on her in a recurring dream.

So, based on your experience, in your own lives, what else could it be? Or is it one of the above?