Re: I need some serious father advice....my 4 year old will not

I have a little one who just turned 5 and fortunately for us he is not a picky eater.

However, there are plenty of other things around the house that take some coercion on our part, and we got tired of the threats and punishments that weren't working, so maybe you could try something like this with yours;

We made up a little chart on the PC with various tasks for each week, e.g., make up your bed, pick up your toys, put away your dirty dishes, etc. For each day he does said tasks, he gets to put a sticker on the chart (we make a little ceremony out of it after supper usually).

He only gets to put a sticker on the things that he did without us asking, and then at the end of the week we total them up. If he gets a certain number, like 17 or 18 I think, for the week he gets a "prize". Usually a trip somewhere he likes, or maybe a small toy he has had his eye on.

In only a few weeks he realized the things he could do quickly and easily to get points, like put his dishes in the sink, and started doing those religiously so he could skip the harder tasks, like vacuuming his playroom... which he will only do if he sees that the end of the week is coming and he doesn't have enough points yet.

I would think something like this would work great, and you could just put eat your veggies on the chart in one of the spots. Good luck, and mainly don't force the issue, just keep the topic open and try to keep it fun.

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May 18, 2015, 3:58 PM

if he does not eat his veggies, just let him get up from the table,,but make sure he knows he gets no snacks or anything other than water until next meal time. you HAVE to make sure you follow thru, if not he knows you will cave in. Start with simple things like green beans and insist that he eats at least one bite of the other vegetables offered. There may be some veggies he just simply does not like, but you will be able to tell the fake "gag" from the real one. He will scream and cry and pitch a fit between meals, but do not give in. Eating habits can be just like punishment,,,,don't threaten. Follow thru with what you say will happen. Don't beg him or bribe him to eat. If you do that, he will expect a reward for everything you ask of him. Don't serve him a different meal that what the family eats...that is a reward and he gets his way. IF you are consistent with this...and be ready for some fits...he will start eating just fine. In the meantime, make sure he gets vitamins every day.

IMO, kids not eating veggies or not doing what you tell them is their way of controlling. If you get hold of that now, your later years with him will be a breeze. CONSISTENCY is the name of the game.

You can not feel sorry for him if he begs between meals. Don't let the guilt he will throw on you get to you. Don't let mom's guilt get to you. I promise, if you are consistent with this for about a week, he WILL eat what is on his plate.

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