Re: I need a little help

First, grief has no timetable. For some it takes longer to deal with. Lean on your faith. God will never ever leave your side. Even on your darkest days there will be light again. Please reach out to any local clergy/pastor or any type of counselors in your area even if it's anonymous. God bless you for taking care of your mother. Maybe you should look into finding a way to help others in a similar capacity. Visit the elderly that have no family, volunteer with children, etc. Just don't give up, ever!

Father God please wrap your arms around this person so that they can feel your grace and know that your presence is forever. Comfort them and assure them that their mother is rejoicing and is whole again. - Amen

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Every situation is obviously different. My mother-in-law is

Jun 29, 2021, 5:59 PM

96 years old, and up until a couple of weeks ago, was still mentally very sharp. She suffers from debilitating back pain, but was coping with the aid of pain meds. Now, a couple of weeks ago, she for sure had some kind of mental event, which has totally confused her, and as a result has become highly emotional about things real and imagined.

She suddenly believes she should be living in a house where she had not lived since 1966. Other timelines are also randomly scewed. Doctors say she has not had a stroke, but it is clear something has caused a sudden change. Attempts at medicine changes have only made things worse.

Her husband died nearly 20 years ago, and she has quite frankly been marking time since then. She often speaks her desire for the Lord to call her home to Him. As a family, it pained us to see her deteriorate physically, but that could be dealt with. Now, with her mind apparently permanently altered, I am not ashamed to admit that my wife, her brother, and I, pray nightly that the Lord will finally call her home. But, we know and believe that the Lord does these things in his own timeframe, and we can but petition him to make this His Plan.

Her son moved back home to live with her several years ago, and my wife spends a large portion of each day at her home taking care of her as well. Their roles long ago changed from children to caregivers. When the Lord finally does bring her home, we will all grieve for her. But, that grief will certainly be tempered with relief that she is no longer suffering the physical and mental infirmities of this world.

Both my parents went home to be with God many years ago. My father went first, followed 8 years later by my mom. I miss them both every day, but when I start to get melancholy, I picture them in their side by side recliners, eating ice cream and watching TV together, favorite pasttimes later in their lives. Then, I begin to smile. As I said, every situation is different. Find happy memories of your mother, and let them be paramount in your thoughts whenever you feel down. It will help, that's what good moms do.

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