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Hardest day of my life
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Hardest day of my life

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Jun 9, 2022, 4:49 PM

Got into work this morning just like any other normal day. My best work friend of the past 10 years who has never been late and has never missed a random day even when sick wasn’t there. Me and a couple of guys tried to get a hold of him no answer, knowing something wasn’t right went to check on him. When I got to his house just had a bad feeling in my stomach, knocked and knocked didn’t get an answer so I jumped his fence to go into his backyard when I got to the sliding glass door could see that he had hung himself. No warning signs, in ten years I’ve never even seen him raise his voice he was just the nicest man you’d ever meet. Still in complete shock and the emotions going from broken, angry, and guilty from not being there for him when he needed me the most I should’ve known. Probably not the place to post this but just got to get it out somewhere. Please keep his family in your prayers, he left behind a wife and two beautiful little girls.

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Jun 9, 2022, 4:50 PM

Praying for his family and friends right now.

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I can't imagine what it must be like for his family/friends


Jun 9, 2022, 4:51 PM

Prayers to all of them.

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WOW..can't even fathom your shock & grief!


Jun 9, 2022, 4:55 PM

So sorry to learn this tragic news and sending my support & sympathy to his family & to you too.

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Jun 9, 2022, 4:52 PM

Very, very sorry. Sorry your friend got to that point and didn't let anyone in. Sorry you had to see that. And sorry for your loss. I will be praying and hope that you find peace amidst the loss.

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Prayers Up for his bride, 2 little gals and friends . . .


Jun 9, 2022, 4:54 PM

and for you my Tiger friend!!!

Thanks for asking us to “stand in the gap” on your behalf!!!

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toughest post ever


Jun 9, 2022, 4:55 PM

thnx for doing this, reminds us all to watch out for our brothers at work, play, family, whomever. Please share with your closest group, take care of yourself after this terrible experience so you don't enter some form of PTSD.

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So sorry for you and your friend


Jun 9, 2022, 4:55 PM

That is terrible and very difficult to be the person who finds their friend. So sorry for him and you as well.

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Prayers


Jun 9, 2022, 4:56 PM

for his coworkers, his friends and especially his family.

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Jun 9, 2022, 4:58 PM

It's hard to fathom that level of despair. Prayers for all.

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Jun 9, 2022, 4:58 PM

I don’t have words.

Prayers to his whole family. Count your blessings too and hold them tight tonight.


You’re in my prayers as well.

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Jun 9, 2022, 5:00 PM

There are no words for what you’ve been through today and what his family is dealing with now. All the emotions and questions left unanswered. Prayers to you all for strength and comfort. God Bless.

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Prayers man. My BIL took his own life 2 years ago - he was


Jun 9, 2022, 5:02 PM

the LAST person I would have suspected of doing that.

Don't spend one second blaming yourself - my BIL turned quickly. I'm convinced he had a brain tumor, cancer, something...

I do shudder to think what type of pain your friend was in to leave his kids like that. I'm sure it was something we can't understand.

Hopefully you and his family will lean on God to find peace.

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Jun 9, 2022, 5:03 PM

Thank you all for the kind words, honestly just stuck in a space of shock/disbelief. Don’t think I’ll ever get the image out of my head. Please check in on everyone in your life especially the ones who always seem the happiest.

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:21 PM

I've lost 2 very close friends in similar circumstances; one by hanging the other by gunshot...both seemed to have reached a great place of success & peace in their lives from the outside.
There were no signs. Completely baffling.
So very sorry for the family and for your personal loss and grief.
Sending prayers...

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:44 PM

This is the second person I was really close to that I’ve lost to suicide, first was my childhood best friend who’s parents abused him my mom and dad fought tooth and nail to help him but ultimately the system failed him and he took his life at 13 years old. But first time I’ve ever seen anything like this wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy, tried to lay down after getting home woke up in absolute terror sweating profusely can’t stop reliving that moment

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:56 PM

Please see a grief counselor. This is too much for anyone to work through alone.
I'm praying for you.

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Re: Please see a grief counselor. I'm praying for you.


Jun 9, 2022, 11:18 PM

There are more counseling resources out there than you may think. Doctors offices, clergy, health insurance or employee assistance programs are good places to start. You have had a traumatic experience and there are people who can help you start the healing process.

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You are correct about that image never


Jun 9, 2022, 10:00 PM [ in reply to Re: Hardest day of my life ]

going away- those moments are lasting but never let yourself believe that you could have done anything differently that would have prevented what he chose to do. So sorry you had to go through this- finding him like that magnifies your loss - please don’t add self guilt to what you are dealing with.

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You actually did the best good deed a friend could ever do.

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Jun 10, 2022, 10:15 AM [ in reply to Re: Hardest day of my life ]

I can hardly imagine what you’re going through, and it’s hard to find a silver lining right now.

But your care as a friend which caused you to go to his house and check on him so quickly…
That saved his wife and/or kids from finding him that way.
Obviously terrible for you to have to see the horrific image - but thank God (and thank you) they didn’t have to see it.

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Jun 9, 2022, 5:11 PM

Speechless and heartbroken for you and the family. I cannot wrap my mind around someone feeling that is their only way out.

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Jun 9, 2022, 5:11 PM

Prayers for everyone involved in terrible event.

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Wow. So very sorry.***

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Jun 9, 2022, 5:26 PM

I understand your grief and may God bless his family and give you
the strength to carry on.

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Jun 9, 2022, 5:43 PM

Tragic, horrible

Prayers are with everyone

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Jun 9, 2022, 5:55 PM

Prayers sent. Hang in there Mj. Things will be tough on you and your coworkers for awhile. Prayers always, always help. Keep in touch with us so you will have an outlet. Be strong.

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Jun 9, 2022, 5:53 PM

So sorry for your loss. I hope you remember the good times and what made him good

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Jun 9, 2022, 5:56 PM

Not sure what brought him to that point but I truly believe this COVID-19 Lockdowns, stay at home mandates, masks, etc., then add the horrible increase in inflation, crazy US snd World, I think there will be lots of bad stories like this in near future.

Some ppl hate Trump but the US was in such a better place under his administration. I am in Iowa visiting all my relatives and most are proud democrats but they are smart enough to know that we are heading the wrong direction and they know who leads this.

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:00 PM

I am so sorry!!!!! We will pray for you and the others.

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:05 PM

You and his family have my sincerest sympathies--am sending up prayers for all of you.

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:06 PM

Prayers to his family, friends and you.

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:07 PM

Sorry homie, hang in there my man.

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:15 PM

Praying for you as well as all your coworkers. Will keep the wife and his family in my prayers.

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:16 PM

Mjc - man, I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for his family and friends. Hopefully time will help turn your grief into memories of the good times y’all had together. God Bless you brother.

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:17 PM

Thank you ??

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:25 PM

So very sad. It can be so shocking to learn about the hidden pain of those we are close to. Be gentle with yourself during this hard time.

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Wow, I’m so sorry.


Jun 9, 2022, 6:26 PM

Prayers for you and his family.

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praying for u and your friends family***


Jun 9, 2022, 6:28 PM



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In my prayers


Jun 9, 2022, 6:30 PM

Isaiah 41:10

So do not fear, for I am with you;
do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you;
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

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That is beyond horrible. Don't hesitate to talk to someone


Jun 9, 2022, 6:35 PM

in the mental health field if you think it will help you process and deal with this.

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Prayers for you, and for his wife and children. Whenever


Jun 9, 2022, 6:42 PM

this kind of thing happens, everyone always thinks they should have, could have done more, something. That's usually not the case. As you said, there are often no signs. And, it happens more than you think.

I lost a friend several years ago who took his life via pistol. In my friend's case, he was overcome with medical bills from his wife's long hospital stay, prior to her passing away. Missing her led him to drink, and drinking led to him losing his job. Then, when the bills piled up, he took what seemed to him to be the only way out. So, that was a case where we KNEW he was struggling, and did what we could to help, but still were shocked when it happened. I would say he just didn't seem like "the type", but there IS no type.

I also lost one of my favorite cousins the same way. In her case, it was a complete and total shock to everyone, just like your friend. Her husband of 50+ years had rapidly advancing Alzheimer's. All we could ever figure out is that dealing with that just overwhelmed her one day. They lived out in the country, and she just walked out into the back yard, and took her own life via pistol, as well. She was one of the most beautiful people, inside and out, that you could ever know in your life. By God's Grace, I pray that I will see her again in Heaven one day.

Religion has some things to say about suicide, differing versions think different things. Myself, I believe that there has to be a chance for redemption of those souls. Especially in a case like my cousins, I cannot accept that a very Christian life lived for over 70 years is blocked from the heavenly hereafter by one moment of weakness when the world overcame her. I hold out that same hope and prayer for your friend and his family.

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Jun 10, 2022, 3:57 AM

I am convinced of the same thing.

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Jun 9, 2022, 6:43 PM

Stay busy and like a few others here said….seek advice! Thanks for sharing your grief with us.

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I am sorry for your loss. There is nothing you could have


Jun 9, 2022, 7:06 PM

done though. I have often thought, how bad does it have to be when someone thinks suicide is their best or only option. I will have you in my prayers.

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Lots of love your way!


Jun 9, 2022, 7:09 PM

Keep spreading your love!

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Jun 9, 2022, 7:11 PM

So sad. Condolences to you and the family. Glad T'net able to provide you an outlet and allow Clemson faithful to extend support.

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I am so sorry and praying for family and you


Jun 9, 2022, 8:18 PM

God Bless ??????

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Jun 9, 2022, 9:35 PM

My deepest sympathies on your loss. I have never lost anyone like that. I just can't even imagine what you are going through. I would suggest you get someone to give you some support in whatever way you feel comfortable. This is a lot to deal with by yourself

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Jun 9, 2022, 9:56 PM

Prayers to you and his family my friend !!??

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Jun 9, 2022, 10:17 PM

Prayers for all??

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Jun 9, 2022, 10:23 PM

Prayer sent to the family and also for you.

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Jun 9, 2022, 10:31 PM

So sorry. That's very sad. I cannot imagine seeing that. Life is hard on people these days. I'm afraid it's not going to get any easier. Things are out of whack. What's right is left and what's wrong is right. Prayed for his friends and family.

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Jun 9, 2022, 10:37 PM

Reminds me of the saying that we often never know about the struggles those around us face on a daily basis. Prayers for his family and friends!

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Jun 9, 2022, 10:45 PM

Prayers man, that's rough...

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Jun 9, 2022, 11:16 PM

So sad. Prayers for his wife, children, family and friends.

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Very sorry to see this tragic news. Sincerest


Jun 10, 2022, 5:01 AM

condolences for his family and friends.

I, also, offered a special prayer for you and the fact that you discovered the tragedy and have had to deal with that. Please, be assured all of us offer our best wishes to you.

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Jun 10, 2022, 8:45 AM

I am praying for you, and for all the others that this tragedy deeply impacted.

Grieving is a natural process created by God. Don't try and fight it. Use it to heal.

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Jun 10, 2022, 8:48 AM

So tragic. Prayers for the family and you and friends. My son found his next door neighbor hanging from a tree a few years back.

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I’m sorry you are having to go through this. One of my best


Jun 10, 2022, 11:36 AM

Friends and I would go to lunch on fridays but we would skip one here and there, so no real alarm. Well, he was going through a divorce and I guess I just didn’t quite pick up on his level of despair. He killed himself and I wish I had been just a little more in tune to things and could have done something to help him. Sorry for your loss.


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Jun 10, 2022, 12:12 PM

My thoughts and prayers for you, his family and friends.

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