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CU Guru [1334]
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Anyone w Kids use $$ as incentive's for Good Grades
Aug 22, 2014, 1:00 PM
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Just looking for ideas and if it has worked for you.
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All-In [26968]
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Never tried it, obviously,
Aug 22, 2014, 1:01 PM
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but it sounds like a good idea to me, as long as it's limited. (i.e. we we ain't trying to make em rich) Could effectively teach that hard work pays.
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my dad did it... I cant say it really worked.
Aug 22, 2014, 1:03 PM
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But I maintained good grades anyway. I do agree with what Prod said though.
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All-In [26968]
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My parents didn't do it for us three kids, and raised
Aug 22, 2014, 1:09 PM
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a valedictorian, a salutatorian, and three college graduates.
But I'm not agin' it.
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Heisman Winner [105587]
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Whoa, how were you not all three valedictorians? I mean,
Aug 22, 2014, 1:12 PM
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homeschool and all?
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All-In [26968]
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No public schools, all the way around.
Aug 22, 2014, 1:15 PM
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I went to kindergarten in a Christian school, but that's it. My older sister did it through 6th grade, I think, until we moved to Columbia.
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All-In [26968]
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Should read. "No, (comma) public schools..."
Aug 22, 2014, 1:15 PM
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In other words, that's where we went.
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110%er [6272]
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so that high falootin' public school education
Aug 22, 2014, 2:06 PM
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didn't stick. huh?
if you cant punctuate properly!!
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Legend [17753]
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Yes. Also amusement park trips.
Aug 22, 2014, 1:04 PM
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In my experience it works like a charm if the kid is not otherwise interested in their grades.
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Rock Defender [53]
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Nope, not me.
Aug 22, 2014, 1:10 PM
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Good grades are an expectation. Less than that is unacceptable.
I do a "dinner of your choice" at the end of the school year for all A's all year.
I've never had a kid not earn the all A's dinner.
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All-TigerNet [13190]
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What does one of those menus look like?
Aug 22, 2014, 1:11 PM
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Fish Sticks, Mac and Cheese, Ice Cream?
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Rock Defender [53]
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Funny you ask. I'm all like "ANYWHERE YOU WANT TO
Aug 22, 2014, 1:14 PM
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GO IN GREENVILLE. DOESN'T MATTER HOW EXPENSIVE IT IS".
Youngest chooses Wendy's (so she could get the frosty)
Middle juan chooses ChickfilA. Because kids. And play area.
Oldest is all like "FARK THAT I WANT SUSHI".
I'd imagine it will get more expensive as they get older.
And BTW we go as a family so one wins we all win. 3 dinners for party of 5.
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All-TigerNet [13190]
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A little dissapointed
Aug 22, 2014, 1:22 PM
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No one has selected the buffet at The Gold Club. You should push that this coming year.
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All-In [40656]
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I received zero doll hairs for good grades
Aug 22, 2014, 1:10 PM
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In college though, it appeared my bad grades received money, so dont hate it.
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All-In [33418]
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Didn't get money, but I did get threatened with grounding
Aug 22, 2014, 1:14 PM
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and not being able to play video games...it worked
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I used cigarettes, and it worked great until they got so
Aug 22, 2014, 1:17 PM
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dang expensive. Then baby Julia got pregnant and had to quit, and that kind of had a negative affect on everyone.
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Heisman Winner [105587]
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Our incentive was good grades = no boot up your ####. It
Aug 22, 2014, 1:19 PM
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worked, but we still got punished when notes came home like "Greenr does great in class and makes all A's but this little ############ does not like to do his homework." I distinctly remember that #### whooping.
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CU Guru [1334]
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My Incentive Plan
Aug 22, 2014, 1:24 PM
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Kinda what I was thinking.
1st Quarter Goals
A = $10
B = $5
C = $0 – Extra chores.
D/F = No Computer/XBOX/Phone entire Q2 / + Extra Chores
(And if you get 1–D/F and 5–A’s – you get no money)
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Monica, I would have been rich as a ####.***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:25 PM
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I pay no allowance so the most I'm out is $120 a Q***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:26 PM
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Heisman Winner [105587]
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How old are your kids? We had jobs at 12.***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:28 PM
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CU Guru [1334]
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11 & 13***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:29 PM
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girls or boys?***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:29 PM
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Rock Defender [53]
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the only flaw or two I see with this is
Aug 22, 2014, 1:33 PM
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1st Quarter Goals
A = $10ARENT THEY SUPPOSED TO MAKE A's?
B = $5 SO YOU'LL PAY THEM FOR MAKING AN 85?
C = $0 – Extra chores.THAT'S NOT TOO BAD. AND I ONLY HAVE TO MAKE A 77.
D/F = No Computer/XBOX/Phone entire Q2 / + Extra Chores
(And if you get 1–D/F and 5–A’s – you get no money) WHAT ABOUT A GRADE A (NO PUN INTENDED) A$$ WHUPPIN?
Better plan:
A=$10
B=##### OFF THIS IS FIRST LOSER AKA 2ND PLACE
C=I WILL LITERALLY KILL YOU YOU STUPID $HIT
D=I WILL SLASH YOUR BIKE TIRES AND ISIS ON YOUR BARBIES AFTER KILLING YOU
F=YOU WILL BE GIVEN A 1-WAY TICKET TO SIBERIA AFTER I KILL YOU, SLASH YOUR BIKE TIRES, AND DECAPITATE YOUR STUFFED ANIMALS AND RAPE YOUR BARBIES
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All-In [26968]
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Yeah, I would have gotten more doing that
Aug 22, 2014, 1:34 PM
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than I got working at Chick-fil-A.
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All-In [33418]
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D's and F's are actually an option here?
Aug 22, 2014, 1:53 PM
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How dumb are your kids?
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CU Guru [1334]
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How in the world did you interpret D/F as an option***
Aug 22, 2014, 2:03 PM
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Re: How in the world did you interpret D/F as an option***
Aug 22, 2014, 2:28 PM
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1st Quarter Goals
A = $10
B = $5
C = $0 – Extra chores.
D/F = No Computer/XBOX/Phone entire Q2 / + Extra Chores
(And if you get 1–D/F and 5–A’s – you get no money)
I don't think my parents had an option for Ds or Fs because I would have been in a foster home if I got a C
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Times have changed with the electronics age***
Aug 22, 2014, 2:37 PM
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Aficionado [156]
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Speaking of which...
Aug 22, 2014, 1:27 PM
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I know I'm new here and everything, but I feel as if I'm close with some of you already. I usually hate doing this, but I'm in need of kitty litter in a bad way, and I'm afraid if I can't get these litter boxes clean, I'm going to lose my adopted children as well. As I mentioned, I'm a recovering crack addict, desperately trying to get on my feet...And while I hate to beg, if anyone could spare a few dollars here and there, it would literally save what family I have left. I'll do any kind of work you may need around the house, etc., as I'm very handy with tools and carpentry work. However, I must note that I have a terrible back from my years in the service, and am currently in a wheel chair. I've also got severe arthritis in both hands, so they don't work as well as they used to LOL!
Any help would be appreciated guys, God Bless and GO TiGeRs!
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Heisman Winner [135609]
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Are you a former military crack addict, or just regular?
Aug 22, 2014, 1:57 PM
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That weighs into the decision process.
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Aficionado [156]
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I was in a militia for quite some time...
Aug 22, 2014, 2:01 PM
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Until that idiot Ricky lit his cigarette around the meth lab and blew up our whole stockpile of weapons and ammo. I retired after that.
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Heisman Winner [135609]
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Lucky.
Aug 22, 2014, 2:02 PM
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The retirement benefits, and all.
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Aficionado [156]
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Wasn't bad, we got three meals a day and a roof over
Aug 22, 2014, 2:04 PM
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our heads for 5 years. The rape and violence startled me at first, but you assimilate quickly.
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Orange Blooded [3924]
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I have high expectations but will not pay them for grades.
Aug 22, 2014, 1:30 PM
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If they don't make good grades then I offer assistance and take things away from them. However, I believe in instilling in them the desire for success on their own and shower them with praise and love when they do well. When they don't, I still love them but give them consequences. Maybe I'm just old fashioned but it has worked for 3 kids so far.
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Rock Defender [53]
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I'm more along these lines (no clemson2010) too
Aug 22, 2014, 1:34 PM
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I ask for them to do the best they can. And if their best is a B, so be it.
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CU Guru [1334]
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I have dont that up till this year.
Aug 22, 2014, 1:35 PM
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And has worked great for my oldest. He gets mostly all A's a couple B's. But my youngest has been a struggle.
He is totally opposite and granted had a hard 2013 with being removed from his mother due to all her personal issues. So just weighing all the options here and getting different opinions.
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Rock Defender [53]
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For srs, IMO you gotta lay the foundation with them that
Aug 22, 2014, 1:39 PM
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making grades is paramount to being successful in life. And that college is not optional, it's what you do after HS.
Ask them about school, help them with homework, let them know it's THE most important thing in their lives behind family and faith if religious.
Ask for their best. Demand that they work hard. And if their best is a C or a B then that's ok.
If they make a B because they didn't work hard, that's where i have a problem. I have one kid that is literally capable of making 100 in everything. She makes a 94 and I'm asking "what happened"? Another of mine has to fight her brains out to make a 93 in a subject. So a 93 is ok.
Work hard, take pride in results, school is important. I think that's the best guidance here.
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Re: Never gave TOTE1 Jr a dime for making good grades
Aug 22, 2014, 1:37 PM
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he's never made below an A in his 1st 5 yrs of school
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Aficionado [156]
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I home-schooled my kids too...
Aug 22, 2014, 1:41 PM
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The A's really gave them confidence.
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Re: We don't exactly care what you do or think***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:42 PM
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Well, that was rude. I care about you.***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:50 PM
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Re: Im sure you don't***
Aug 22, 2014, 2:10 PM
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Re: Anyone w Kids use $$ as incentive's for Good Grades
Aug 22, 2014, 1:41 PM
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Yes I did with my youngest two but only for the core subjects (like math, science, history, etc.).
Worked for one and not at all for the second.
Don't think I would attempt this experiment again.
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Legend [17753]
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We offer an incentive for getting As all year.
Aug 22, 2014, 1:44 PM
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Otherwise nothing each quarter. If any grades are below a B at any point there is trouble and lost priveleges etc.
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Are you my scok?***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:45 PM
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Re: Im pretty sure you would know wouldn't you?***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:46 PM
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pussyfart6988***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:46 PM
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Re: Didn't work for me, is it case sensative?***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:47 PM
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oh, you weren't asking everyone. Ignore that reply.***
Aug 22, 2014, 1:47 PM
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I can tell that's not real. Otherwise it would show as #####
Aug 22, 2014, 1:54 PM
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cause of crunp's cool security feature - keeps people from accidentally posting their passwords.
See, mine is:
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Message was edited by: 97CUtiger2®
^^^^^^Sweet - I typed my PW but when it posted it olny shows #####
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That is awesome, let me try....
Aug 22, 2014, 2:03 PM
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Orange Blooded [3821]
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NO, they are expected to get good grades
Aug 22, 2014, 2:00 PM
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And they do.
Why reward then for something they are expected to do?
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We did that for our kids in Elementary skool...
Aug 22, 2014, 2:01 PM
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and their grandfather loaded the bucks on them all the way through.
I don't know that it makes any difference at all. Both kids are high achievers and happily, talented. My oldest would have done well no matter what, I think. His motivation was his nerdy friends. A little the same with the youngest, but that one is tremendousaly lazy and gets by on minimal effort.
Peer pressure is a huge motivator and often, you can't determine who their mates will be. If you can put them in an environment to achieve, I think you're most of the way home, whether you pay them or not.
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Another thing I found that works well is constantly
Aug 22, 2014, 2:13 PM
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threatening to sell the kid to the gypsies. I often pretend to receive a call and then I look the kid over like 'about 75 pounds. I think he could work a shovel for 14 hours or so without passing out. ' Then I hang up and tell the wife the offer was still too low.
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Oh wow. I suppose that might work.
Aug 22, 2014, 2:25 PM
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Another thing is to immediately put them in manacles as soon as they get home from skool and threaten them with watching Independence Day if they don't do their homework.
They hate Independence Day because Independence Day.
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Another thing is the Japanese prison camp model.
Aug 22, 2014, 2:27 PM
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We read about in the Louis Zamperini book. I bet that wood work. You know these orientals are all about discipline.
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Waterboarding is not just for summer camp anymore.***
Aug 22, 2014, 2:40 PM
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