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My wife is making a big deal...

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:19 PM
 

Out of me going to the Football Game tomorrow without her. We recently had a baby in July and she goes back to work in two weeks. She won't leave the baby. So, I asked a friend to go and she gets all mad about how I'm leaving her alone for 12 hours. I told he I think it will be to loud for the baby. Now she's all up in arms about family time. I purchased two tickets for both of us to go. We have my parents to watch the baby. However, she won't. I'm a a bad dude for going ahead and go...thanks Tnet.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:23 PM
 

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My thoughts exactly! Along with....

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 3:18 AM
 

Start saving (a lot) of money for a divorce lawyer!

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Ask her if she really wants to leave her new baby for

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:23 PM
 

12 hours? Call her bluff.

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Just remember that YOU are a big deal

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:25 PM
 

The game ... not so much.

But YOU...YOU my friend are the big deal. And mama should be happy that big deal daddy is getting some football time.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:27 PM
 

which is nice.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:27 PM
 

Mine would do the same thing. Just go though she will get over it. You need to enjoy yourself. You can watch the kid another weekend and she can go out.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:27 PM
 

no... she's being unreasonable to not be able to handle your child for 12 hours by herself. she has the option to leave him/her with your parents.. if she shoots that down AND shoots you down of going.. she has you by the balls and will continue to be this way as long as she knows you'll give in..

so, go and let her know that you're a grown man that has given her options and she's a grown woman that can take care of it.

you're welcome.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:32 PM
 

Remember and don't forget. Happy Wife, Happy life.

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what kind of nutless slogan is that? Try to appease the

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:35 PM
 

unappeasable and you'll be unhappy for the rest of your relationship

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:37 PM
 

that sh!t gets old after a while... why not "give and take wife, give and take husband, happy life"???

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There's no way that will work..it doesn't rhyme

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 5:18 PM
 

;)

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 6:45 PM
 

Remember and don't forget... give up your balls, you've got no balls.

You're being a grown up and she is not. Nip this in the bud and now - or this will be the expectation for the next 18 years, or whenever she decides she'd rather live with the kid somewhere else and make you pay for it.

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 7:59 AM
 

Disagree
little did I realize that when I said 'Till death do us part...I was setting a goal for myself...
Dad needs to be happy too. GO TO THE GAME HAVE A GOOD TIME
IF SHE LOVES YOU SHE WILL GET OVER IT.
GO TIGERS

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:40 PM
 

I was in a similar situation in 96. My son was 7 weeks old and a buddy got tickets to the World Series to see ATL versus NY. He asked me to go and I was like Yes! I asked my wife and she told me to go, yeah I felt a little guilty, but I still had maybe a once in a lifetime experience. My advise to you is to go and enjoy unless there's health concerns or something of that nature for your child. She'll get over it!

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:47 PM
 

The single great question that every husband has to answer for himself is "would you rather be right or would you rather be happy"?

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:54 PM
 

why does one have to cancel out the other? if you're a good guy/husband/father.. then go to the game and let her just get mad.. she'll get over it. and, a LOT quicker if you don't act all worried about her getting mad. if you're a super dad.. know it.. and live it.. and, she'll let it go. mark it down.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:53 PM
 

Don't go man.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:55 PM
 

do this and prepare yourself to do this from now on.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:56 PM
 

You're right . It would be too loud for a baby .

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:57 PM
 

As the mother on this board, sit down and have a discussion. Remind her she is going to work soon and it might be a good trial run. She is going to have to leave the child in daycare soon. It is ok for her to leave child and have fun! Always husband and wife first, children second. Naturally you will not want to be as direct as I was. If this doesn't work, you are on your own.. Hope it works out.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:58 PM
 

but honestly.. if you're on here asking for our opinions.. you're not prepared to handle this on your own.. so.. you better just stay home. cause if you choose to go and it's just gonna lead to you beggin' for forgiveness.. psshhh.. forget it..

as you can tell, i'm passionate about this.. i hate seeing men living in fear of their wife.. it's just sad.

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I'd look her dead in the eye and say, "I'm going...

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 4:59 PM
 

and when I get back, I expect #####."

Trust me, women love this. They want a real man that has a set.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 5:03 PM
 

I see the tnet vernacular for coitus has been sent packin.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 5:01 PM
 

I can understand if you stay on the road all the time.
But if not your wife has serious issues if she is mad about you going to a football game.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 5:03 PM
 

Eh, I would stay home. May make things better at home if you do.

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 8:07 AM
 

If he is pissed off
how is that making things better
been here...it did not make things better...I was angry with my wife for weeks afterwards

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 5:08 PM
 

Stay home with your wife and new baby. There will be more ball games but these first special days with your new baby will pass very quickly. Your wife is going back to work soon which is very hard for most moms and she wants to cherish this time while she can.
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Fortunately y'all can have a great time watching from home where you can share the good times, eat plenty of junk food and scream to your hearts content. Be sure baby has appropriate Tiger Paw onesie to wear.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 5:28 PM
 

I, too, would stay home.

The first time I faced a similar decision to what you're going through was in 1999. I was engaged to my then-future wife, a Clemson grad, and it was the night before the Clemson - South Carolina game in Columbia (Tommy Bowden's first year and South Carolina was in their losing streak). We were heading to Columbia Saturday a.m. As we were loading up the car, she got a call from her sister-in-law telling her that they were heading to the hospital to have their baby. I could tell Ashley really wanted to be there for her sister-in-law and even though she told me to go to the game without her, I chose my future wife over going to the game. And I don't regret that decision at all!

When the kid gets older (3 or 4), you can start taking him/her to the games and sharing that experience with them. I took my oldest son (now 15) to the Peach Bowl against UT when he wasn't even two years old. I never head to Clemson without at least one of my four boys, and typically they're choosing to go to the Clemson game over just about anything else and get mad if they don't get to go.

I think that the other poster made a good point. Your wife is probably going through some emotional stuff right now with getting ready to head back to work and leaving the baby either in daycare or with someone else.

Just be there for her. Send your parents to Raleigh to cheer on the Tigers in person and live vicariously through them!

Go Tigers!

MT

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 5:20 PM
 

Clemson lost that game. I'm glad I stayed home.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 11:17 PM
 

Maybe that's WHY the list... thanks a lot!!

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Most wives run the show. Not mine.


Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 6:13 PM
 

29 years later happily married with two kids. Most of my friends who took orders are divorced.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 6:22 PM
 

She does you're just too dumb to notice.

We all are, men that is

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You misunderstood “making a big deal”


Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 6:28 PM
 

It’s time for you and mama to play Let’s Make a Deal. A big deal. Just kidding, sort of.

My kids are Clemson students now, but I have fond memories of watching a game on TV when our Firstborn was about eight months old. I saw most of the game. And we didn’t make any kind of deal. It was a total surprise, which is probably why I remember it so well.

Do yourself a huge favor; find someone to take your place at the game.




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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 6:29 PM
 

He has signs everywhere in OKC

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 6:39 PM
 

"Nip it. Nip it in the bud."

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The fact that she won't let your parents watch the baby is outrageous***


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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 6:56 PM
 

Don’t ask Tigernet for marriage advice.

Make an appt with a marriage counselor or pastor or priest.

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Stay. Home.


Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 7:00 PM
 

Yes, she is unreasonable, but that's not the point.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 7:04 PM
 

I heard this story a time or two hundred. If you go to the game your Sunday and probably Monday will be sh.tt, if you don't go she will find something else to complain about.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 7:05 PM
 

Hormones

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 8:17 PM
 

I have been married for 42 years and raised 4 children. DON'T go and give me the tickets,

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 9:11 PM
 

Reminds me of a song...I'm gonna miss her, oh - another bite...

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 8:52 AM
 

LOL - I was JK 'bout that. Been married 35 years and thankful every day. IMO - no game is worth having issues with the wife, even though I could go anytime I wanted to without her. She hates FB. We got married on OPENING DAY of football season, so that tells you where my priorities lie. It is a pain some years though, having to try to watch FB on our anniversary. I never thought of that. :) WatchESPN app is nice now.

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I'm SO HAPPY I listened to my wife in these situations


Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 9:22 PM
 

I've been married almost 20 years. Every year, every day gets better. Ain't no way a football game is worth strife.

This is not to say your wife isn't being a little unreasonable maybe. But it just isn't worth it.

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I am a woman and I say go to the football game.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 9:53 PM
 

She had the option to go and she said no. That doesn't mean you have to stay home.

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You married?


Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 9:54 PM
 

I rest my case.

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Nope. Cause I like doing what I want when I want and not

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 10:26 PM
 

having to deal with this kind of shiznit. LOL

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 10:30 PM
 

Hey, how's your mom doing? Miss your look alike posts.

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I loved being married.


Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 11:20 PM
 

But I'm a sicko who doesn't believe he deserves peace and sanity.

I hung with a marriage for 30 years. I reckon when I went through the change of life I drove the poor girl crazy.

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just remember

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 9:56 PM
 

that her hormones are all crazy. Don't expect sanity for a while.

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take them both***


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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 10:12 PM
 

A few pertinent questions: 1) Prior to the child did she go to the games? 2) Have you gone to any of the other games this season, if so was her response the same?

If she used to enjoy going to the game then you should get the babysitter etc all set and take the excuse away. Soon she is going to have to leave him (her). It probably won’t work but you should emphasis that this might be one last chance in a while for just the 2 of you to do something together without the kid(s). If she never went then you are out of luck. If you went to the other games it is probably a hard sell as well.

I am also a woman and I say go but I don’t know your wife or your relationship.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 10:16 PM
 

Dear Abby,

My wife....
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Signed,
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Scrolled through all these comments

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 10:17 PM
 

And not a pic to be found

TD

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 10:25 PM
 

I wouldn’t go if I were you. I could understand if the baby were older but she just had it and would like for you to stay with her and the baby and not be selfish. A wife is a lot of responsibility and having a new born doubles that. It boils down to her wanting you to realize that now is not the time for you to go out and enjoy yourself while she is stuck at home taking care of the human being you two just made.

So stay home and be with your family. Prove to her that both of them come before some football game. This is a test but it’s a fair one.

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 8:57 AM
 

She's NOT stuck at home... it's her choice to stay home..

This is a classic "my way or the highway" deal... so my question to you would be: what highway are you gonna take to the game?

This isn't bout you making the right decision.. this is about her trying to control your every move..

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Did you ask her before you purchased tickets for the two of you?

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 10:55 PM
 

If not, that’s your fault for not discussing it first. You can’t be mad at her for wanting to stay home.

If you did ask her before purchasing, and she said yes but has since changed her mind, maybe you should ask more about why she no longer wants to go.

In either case, I think you should stay home. Your wife is dealing with a lot of emotions right now, and by staying home you’ll show her that she and your baby are more important to her than a football game.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 11:28 PM
 

You might want to listen to Harry Chapin's "Cat's in the Cradle" while you make your decision.

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New mothers are a mass of conflicting emotions.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 11:35 PM
 

They feel neglected and ignored while the children are infants. All their time goes toward the care of the baby. Both of you are sharing your spouse with the baby. Life is changing much more radically for her than you so the impact of sharing you with another human adds to the emotional confusion.

You've invited her to leave the baby which has her flashing forward to returning to work. Obviously, this is a most difficult time for her. She's torn between protecting and providing care for the baby and spending time with you.

There's only one way to deal with a woman if you want to preserve a marriage. Put them first, before your friends, children and especially before yourself. Make decisions which are best for your wife. That will relieve you of wondering if you're doing what's right. Sometimes they won't understand but most of the time they will. Eventually they will realize your goal is their well being and they will surrender.

I can't say go and I can't say stay. You'll have to decide what is best for your wife on your own.

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Posted: Nov 3, 2017, 11:36 PM
 

Marriage sounds amazing man.

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 12:16 PM
 

So,WHERE ARE YOU!!

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 1:06 AM
 

From a woman’s standpoint, I know I was extremely hormonal and overly sensitive after having a baby. My advice, go to the game and have a good time. She will get over it and weeks from now she will laugh about this and admit she was being ridiculous. On the way back, pick up a bouquet of flowers for her. Better yet, do the dishes or laundry the next day. That little gesture will score major points with wifey. Go have fun!

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 7:42 AM
 

maybe do the dishes before you go!

its a fact that no man has ever been shot by his wife while doing dishes!

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 2:09 AM
 

Wish you'd have posted this earlier in the week when there was still time. My son just became a dad and one of things I got him (at his suggestion) was a pair of sound-killing earmuffs for babies. Amazon has them.

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 3:10 AM
 

Half of marriages end in divorce.

Go to the ballgame and ill watch your wife

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 6:01 AM
 

Nope. If she won't leave the baby and go have fun for a few hours, it is unreasonable to think you should also just sit around and not go to the game.

It's not like you did not give her an option to go (parents watching the baby). She made a choice.

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If it were me I would trade the fb game for sleep.


Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 7:58 AM
 

There was a time that I considered not eating so that I could get 20 mins of sleep

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If it were me I would trade the fb game for sleep.


Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 7:58 AM
 

There was a time that I considered not eating so that I could get 20 mins of sleep

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Eh, just kick her out***


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Sometimes,


Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 8:06 AM
 

It’s better to ask for forgiveness rather than permission. Go and have fun.

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You have entered...

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 8:44 AM
 

The No-Win Zone.
Imagine if you will, a man left without options, a life where football is off limits to him.

Call another bud and give the other ticket away.
Stay home and mope around, kick stuff but not too hard.
Make a lot of grunting type noises and sigh a lot.
DO NOT crack a smile when she tries to cheer you up because she will look for a chink in your armor.
Go out to your garage and clean it. She will know that things have gone dark in your world.
Expect a nice lunch and maybe a low cut top wearing woman to bring that lunch out to you.
Take your tablet and watch the game out in the garage.
I installed surveillance cameras all around the exterior of the house. My wife thinks they are for home security but really they are to let me know when she's coming my way. If you had one and could see her coming you would have enough time to kill the power on the tablet and turn it over in time for her to catch you staring off in space.
All bonus points for later on down the road.

You're welcome and I know, I should be a marriage counselor.

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You gave her a baby. And you’re still with her?


Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 9:09 AM
 

You sound like father of the year material to me considering how a lot of these new age boys are. Noticed I said boys and not men.

That is no environment for a baby. I’m 33 and don’t want to be involved in that wuffie trash. You tried to make things right and she was stubborn and said no. Not your fault now. This is all on her.

Enjoy the game. Learn from this situation and try not to repeat something similar to this in the future.

GOOOO TIGERS!!!!

~JKB

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go to the game, she'll get over it....eventually...she will

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 9:15 AM
 

remind you of this and all other times you did here wrong for the rest of your married life, but she'll get over it.

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Why are you still going?


Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 9:38 AM
 

This is not worth it.

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Just go - she will get over it


Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 9:42 AM
 

eventually.

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 9:48 AM
 

With her that you'll take care of the baby one day while she has some alone time. Good luck.

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 1:40 PM
 

This is football we're talking about.

GET OUT, GET OUT NOW!

She's not the only woman that can have children. You can't start over with a better one.

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Posted: Nov 4, 2017, 2:46 PM
 

I left my wife with newborns overnight to go to the 2 national championship games. We had 2 girls the last couple years.

My wife was cool about it, she understood how much it meant to me.

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