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Legend [19576]
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Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 11:23 AM
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Any other year I'd be excited about NSD. Reading the articles, twitter updates etc. Today my wife and I were scheduled to welcome our first child into the world, however, 2 weeks ago we found out that would not happen. My wife and I lost our baby girl unexpectedly just days before her due date. Now the Clemson news and games that I followed daily seem miniscule.
You do try and move on and get back to normal (which is why I even logged on today) but it isn't the same and probably won't be for a while. Maybe by August I'll be able to be excited again for football news and a new season.
Please keep my family in your prayers and hug your little ones tight this evening. Heaven knows I wish I could.
Take care Tnet. I'll be around.
Go Tigers!
CUATFL
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My condolences and prayers for you...truly sad news.***
Feb 4, 2014, 11:26 AM
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All-TigerNet [11170]
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ugh dude thats awful***
Feb 4, 2014, 11:26 AM
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Orange Blooded [3244]
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Prayers for you and your wife, my friend.
Feb 4, 2014, 11:28 AM
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Very sorry to hear the news.
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Orange Blooded [3820]
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I will be praying for you and your wife... That's terrible
Feb 4, 2014, 11:28 AM
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News. I am so sorry man.
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Orange Blooded [2245]
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 11:28 AM
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So sorry man!
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All-In [27363]
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 11:41 AM
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I have been there and know what you are going through. At times you just have to be tougher than you think you can and you will survive this and other bad times. Having a solid marriage will make it easier for you both.
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Recruit [76]
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 11:36 AM
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Prayers are with you
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Orange Blooded [4098]
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 11:39 AM
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U certainly have my prayers.. please take comfort that the Lord knows your hurt and will be with you both>
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 11:39 AM
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Sorry to hear that man. Take the time you need and come back and see us when the Tigers get ready to take the field.
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Senior Writer [∞]
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Let me know if there is anything we can do
Feb 4, 2014, 11:41 AM
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I hate to hear this, and can't imagine the grief you're feeling. Please email me and let me know if there is anything we can do for you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 11:45 AM
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You have my condolences, may God be with you and your wife and family and he will. A good friend of mine had the same misfortune. The next pregnancy, they had twins, a boy and a girl. Time, patience, perseverance and trust in God will accomplish all things. You will be blessed with children in the future.
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CU Medallion [58376]
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That's a tough one - very sorry for your loss. Tigernet
Feb 4, 2014, 11:48 AM
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has been a strange source of comfort for me during some really tough times. Not only were the kind words from fellow t-netters truly comforting, but t-net was also sort of a reminder that the world does keep on turning. We'll be here for you when you are ready; until then, thoughts and prayers your way.
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Trainer [46]
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Prayers for you my friend
Feb 4, 2014, 11:56 AM
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You said it well about perspective. There's nothing I can say that can help you as I have never experienced what you and your wife are going through. However, be assured that God hurts when we hurt and only He can provide comfort and peace in times like this.
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Orange Blooded [4640]
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Prayers sent. I just lost my grandfather so a lot has been
Feb 4, 2014, 11:56 AM
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viewed in a different light over the last few days.
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CU Medallion [67693]
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 12:01 PM
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very sorry for your loss. we too went through this. it is very difficult but with friend and family support you will get through it. Prayers sent for all of you at this difficult time
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Oculus Spirit [96799]
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Very sorry to hear that my friend. Will keep you and your
Feb 4, 2014, 12:01 PM
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wife in my prayers.
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Hall of Famer [24169]
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Will keep you and your wife in my prayers.
Feb 4, 2014, 12:15 PM
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John 16:33 I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”
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Orange Blooded [4504]
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Sorry for your loss. Only time and faith will heal your
Feb 4, 2014, 12:15 PM
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heart. God bless.
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Legend [19590]
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I empathize with you.
Feb 4, 2014, 12:19 PM
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While not the same, we lost a child within the first three months of pregnancy. We didn't yet know the sex of the baby, nor had she developed much of a baby bump. We had not even told people yet.
But there was an emotional bond that had already been established even within those first couple of months, so I know your grief is excrutiating.
It will take a while, but your grief will eventually subside, though never totally leave.
I will pray for you with the hope that you will be reunited in the next life.
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 12:29 PM
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CU, I am so sorry to hear this. My ex-wife and I suffered 3 miscarriages while being ultimately Blessed with 2 teriffic boys. God's Blessings and Peace to you and your family! And, I truly believe that you will one day see your daughter in Heaven!!
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CUAtTheFinishLine...my heart goes to you. This coming
Feb 4, 2014, 12:29 PM
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Friday, my wife and I will "celebrate" our little girls 4th birthday. The problem is, she will not be here. We lost her 18 days later. I'm going to tell you, you hurt everyday. I don't think my marriage will recover and I lost the two women I love more than anyone that day. I urge you to be there for your wife and hold her, cry with her, pray together. More than likely, my family will soon dissolve (we have a 2 1/2 yr. old boy) and the life I love will perish. Please seek couseling together and build a strong bond of love and comfort with your wife. Please try again to build a family. We lost our little girl and God blessed us with a wonderful young man. I'm praying and shedding tears as I type. MFO
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Legend [19576]
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Re: CUAtTheFinishLine...my heart goes to you. This coming
Feb 4, 2014, 1:00 PM
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We've read stories like this and can't imagine how painful it would have been to have lost her after birth. While this hurt we feel is tougher than anything we've endured, I imagine it doesn't even begin to compare to what you and your wife went through and I am deeply sorry that it happened to you. I hope everything will eventually work out for your family.
My wife and I feel like we are closer over the last 2 weeks and we will certainly work hard to keep it that way. And we will be trying again for another child.
Thank you for your kind words.
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Re: CUAtTheFinishLine...my heart goes to you. This coming
Feb 4, 2014, 6:25 PM
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Prayers for you and your wife. Also the others who are struggling with death and illness.
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Team Captain [462]
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you and your family are in our prayers***
Feb 4, 2014, 12:54 PM
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Orange Blooded [4693]
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Sorry to hear that.***
Feb 4, 2014, 12:56 PM
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CU Medallion [61475]
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Very saddened to hear about this.
Feb 4, 2014, 1:00 PM
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I will be praying for you and your wife.
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Heisman Winner [139873]
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Praying for y'all.***
Feb 4, 2014, 1:01 PM
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110%er [9646]
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CU, I know you already loved that little girl with all your
Feb 4, 2014, 1:07 PM
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heart. I'm heartbroken for your family.
Please don't try to carry this burden on your own. Let God's comforting arms embrace you and your wife. His arms are already around your little girl.
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110%er [6558]
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Sympathy and prayers for you, your wife and family.***
Feb 4, 2014, 1:10 PM
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CU Guru [1944]
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You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Feb 4, 2014, 1:12 PM
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While I have never experienced anything as bad as what you're going through my sister-in-law did. I grieved with her and her entire family and I could never understand how God could let something like that happen. I am a Christian and I have total belief in God but I don't prescribe to everything being preordained but many times God uses these type tragedies for good. A couple of years after my sister-in-law lost her baby she and her husband were at an event of some sort and talking with one of their friends who told them that the day she lost her baby he was preparing to kill himself. After he heard her news and visited them in the hospital he decided if they could survive losing their baby he could live through the issues that had driven him to the edge of taking his life. He now has a family himself. So while nothing will ever explain how such a terrible tragedy can happen maybe someone will find strength in your strength. May God comfort you through the coming days, months and years.
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All-In [37023]
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Man , I sincerely hate to hear that.....
Feb 4, 2014, 1:38 PM
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Prayer from my family to yours dude.. Hang in there, I know it's tough...We'll all be here for ya for whatever it is you need!
Dave
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All-In [27178]
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Prayers and thoughts are with you and your wife.
Feb 4, 2014, 2:02 PM
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My heart goes out to you both, stay strong.
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CUATFL, I'm so sorry to hear this
Feb 4, 2014, 2:11 PM
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There's nothing I can say to help you feel better, but just know that I just lifted some prayers up for you, your wife, and that little angel.
But yes, it puts everything in perspective. Clemson fans, South Carolina fans, and all people can certainly sympathize with the pain you feel. I know I am blessed to have a son, who's initials are GWP. And I will hug him tightly. But right now, as I am sure you're experiencing, it's good to grieve and be thankful for the gifts you have. It's hard to do a lot of times, but during difficult times you have to have faith in God's plan.
During a difficult time in my life my best friend sat me down and told me "If He will take you to it, He will get you through it." I echo davidhood's sentiments that if there is anything I can do other than offer prayers, let me know.
God bless my friend.
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All-In [25381]
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CUATFL, you've always been of the TNet regulars that I've
Feb 4, 2014, 2:16 PM
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enjoyed reading, and I am truly sorry to read of this tragic news.
Please, accept my deepest sympathies and express the same to your wife. Your good friends here on TNet will have you in our thoughts.
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Prayers go out to both of you. May God bless.***
Feb 4, 2014, 2:17 PM
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Orange Blooded [2828]
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
Feb 4, 2014, 4:41 PM
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I will be praying for you and your wife my friend. May God give you the type of peace that surpasses all understand. Please remember that your Tiger Net family is here for you.
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 4:44 PM
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That's really tough. I am sorry for you. I pray that you may feel the peace that surpasses all understanding.
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May God grant you and your family comfort and peace******
Feb 4, 2014, 4:46 PM
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 4:48 PM
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just had 2 grandkids in the last 7 months, both perfectly healthy. they have changed my sons lives. sorry for your loss. try again my man.
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 4:57 PM
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I;m so sorry to hear this terrible news. You and yours will be in my prayers.
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All-In [27366]
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It's hard.Especially for your wife. Mine lost our first boy.
Feb 4, 2014, 6:08 PM
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All I can say is that it will get better and easier as time heals all wounds. I know it doesn't help now, but one day you will make better sense of it and be able to appreciate your future blessings. We certainly have.
May the LORD give you that peace that passes all understanding.
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Orange Blooded [3220]
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slightly different - i lost my mother right before christmas
Feb 4, 2014, 7:28 PM
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it STILL sucks, but i got much enjoyment watching our tigers
beat ohio state in the orange bowl. and i'm having fun
watching basketball. and i'm excited about tomorrow. hang in there! keep on truckin'.
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CU Guru [1650]
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Sorry to hear that....
Feb 4, 2014, 7:30 PM
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My wife had a miscarriage in 2006 but we've been blessed with two wonderful children. You have to put your faith in God that he has a plan and he does. I can also tell you that no matter how hard this is on you that your wife is hurting much more. They are wired different for a reason for child bearing and I'm certain she feels like she has let you down. Take some time to nurture your marriage and put her on a pedestal. God will bless you more than you can fathom. Praying for you.
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Legend [17584]
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Prayers for you and your family CU
Feb 4, 2014, 7:32 PM
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Many things in life are more important than football.
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Legend [16427]
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That is devastating
Feb 4, 2014, 7:50 PM
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12 years ago, a week before Easter, my wife miscarried. We had planned to announce the pregnancy at Easter. As we sat down to dinner that Sunday, my brother-in-law announced that he and his wife were expecting. That felt like a kick in the gut, but she was still in her first trimester...and as sad as we were for ourselves, we were happy for their news. Long story short, my wife delivered a healthy baby girl at Christmas of that year...two months after our nephew was born.
I can't begin to imagine the hurt you feel, but I hurt for you. You will be a parent eventually, and you will treasure that child (or those children) even more having been through this.
This is a dark time, but this, too, shall pass. God loves you, and I do, too. Hang in there.
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Legend [17522]
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You are right of course ... Take special care of the Mrs.***
Feb 4, 2014, 8:29 PM
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One day at a time. There lots of books written on how
Feb 4, 2014, 9:07 PM
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to deal with the loss. We lost a daughter at roughly 16 weeks and it wasn't easy either. When you talk to friends and co-workers you'll find a lot more people than you thought have lost babies too! God Bless you and your wife!
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Oculus Spirit [90729]
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My Sincerest Condolences To You, Wife & Families. ***
Feb 4, 2014, 9:53 PM
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GoTiGERS!
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Lots of prayers.***
Feb 4, 2014, 9:55 PM
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 10:18 PM
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Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. It really does help and means a lot.
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 10:31 PM
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So sorry for your lost. June 8, 2005 my wife gave birth to a stillborn little girl "Emma". Thinks like this does put life in perspective and know there will be better days with time. Lean on your faith and God will see you and your family threw this. God Bless
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 10:21 PM
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Prayers for you and your wife.
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Prayers for you and your family, brother.***
Feb 4, 2014, 10:22 PM
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Prayers...***
Feb 4, 2014, 10:33 PM
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Stay strong man and prayers are going to you...
Feb 4, 2014, 10:55 PM
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I lost a child too before it was born albeit under different circumstances that I won't get into. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him or her. Some days are worst than others but I take comfort in knowing that one day we will be united. Don't ever be afraid to talk about it and let people help and comfort you. Don't know if you have a relationship with Christ or not but that has helped me tremendously.
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God bless, stay strong.***
Feb 4, 2014, 11:00 PM
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 11:04 PM
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My prayers are with you. Ironically, I remember from sociology class at Clemson many years ago friends and even family often under estimate the grief that a loss like this is for the parents. It is hard to understand now, but somehow it is in God's plan for your family.
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 4, 2014, 11:12 PM
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My family will be praying for yours. May you feel His peace and tangibly experience His presence, love, mercy, and healing through this. Very sorry to hear about this.
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 5, 2014, 9:46 AM
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So sad to hear about your terrible loss. Hope you feel some measure of peace in the days and years to come as you heal. Best wishes and prayers for you and your family.
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Re: Some things in life just put football in perspective
Feb 5, 2014, 10:07 AM
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I am so sorry, you and your wife and fmily will be in my prayers. GOD bless each of you and give you peace in this time of grief!
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So sorry. Prayers and sympathy to you both.***
Feb 5, 2014, 10:53 AM
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No words, just Prayers
Feb 5, 2014, 10:54 AM
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bless you and your family.
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CU- praying for you and your family.
Feb 5, 2014, 11:08 AM
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The only thing I can say is take your time grieving, stay close to Mrs CU and know that things will get better. We had 2 miscarriages before we were blessed with 2 healthy pregnancies and now were are expecting our 3rd. It was a trying time for us that tested our patience and our marriage in some aspects. In hindsight it is the tough times that make it even that much more special in the end. It will all work out... It always does.
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CU Guru [1298]
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Re: CU- prayer
Feb 5, 2014, 11:12 AM
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Lord send a legion of angles to minister and your Spirit to provide peace and understanding. Remember nothing can separate you from the love of God that is in Christ. Persevere and know in Him there is eternal Hope.
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CU Guru [1898]
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Your priorities are straight - some
Feb 5, 2014, 11:13 AM
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day soon everything will be bright again. Prayers outbound.
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110%er [7913]
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Brother----God loves you and your wife and that little girl
Feb 5, 2014, 11:29 AM
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now in heaven.
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CU Guru [1698]
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So sorry to hear this news
Feb 5, 2014, 11:37 AM
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my wife and I will be praying for y'all. Psalm 46:10
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