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It’s a Wonderful Life
Dec 25, 2022, 8:48 PM
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Watching It’s a Wonderful Life and George tells his Dad, “You want to know something, I think you are a great guy. Wish I had told my Dad the same thing before he passed away many years ago. Sometimes we miss the opportunity to say the things we should say.
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Re: It’s a Wonderful Life
Dec 25, 2022, 8:53 PM
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I found out a couple of days ago my dad is real sick. Today was probably his last Christmas. He is a great man and I will remind him of that everyday until his last day. Thanks for posting.
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Prayers to you and your family
Dec 25, 2022, 9:57 PM
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Hope you can share your support and love through this difficult time.
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Great movie. I make a point to watch it every year. Never know who you impact***
Dec 25, 2022, 9:11 PM
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Love that movie!!***
Dec 25, 2022, 9:40 PM
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Re: It’s a Wonderful Life
Dec 25, 2022, 9:43 PM
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I agree, but my Dad raised me to be hard and not express emotions. It's kind of hard to start now. It's kind of understood we love each other, but saying it is just not who we are.
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Re: It’s a Wonderful Life
Dec 25, 2022, 9:49 PM
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Same here but if I had the opportunity today, I wouldn't hesitate.
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Yep some folks struggle with saying it...
Dec 25, 2022, 9:54 PM
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My wife's family has a hard time opening up and expressing their feelings but hopefully you can share your thoughts with your generation and make it OK. It don't make you weak to express love, admiration, or appreciation.
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Re: Yep some folks struggle with saying it...
Dec 26, 2022, 7:29 AM
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You are correct in that it doesn’t show weakness to express love. In fact , I’ve learned that it sometimes requires great strength. But as you said it gets easier every time you do it. I grew up in a family that showed love but never said it out loud. My wife’s family taught me to break that cycle. Now I do it with my side of the family and they are turning into a bunch of softies now.
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Hard is not impossible. And it will get easier every time.***
Dec 26, 2022, 5:39 AM
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Re: It’s a Wonderful Life
Dec 26, 2022, 7:56 AM
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My dad and I didn't show a lot of emotion either but when he was in Hospice my mother whispered to him that I was there helping and he managed to say the words back "he's always there helping us" It's the last words he spoke in the three days he was there and its been 3 years but I think of it often and those words still give me comfort and peace everyday.
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Thankfully . . .
Dec 26, 2022, 8:55 AM
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my Dad and I left nothing un-said . . . We were “good” when he graduated in Oct 2013 . . . and yet . . . daily I find myself wishing I could feel his arms embracing me, holding me securely . . . I yearn to look into his clear sky-blue eyes and thank him again for loving me . . . I wish every child could grow up with a Dad like mine!!!
It is indeed a “Wonderful Life”.
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I actually look forward more to watching Ben Hur and
Dec 26, 2022, 9:15 AM
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The Ten Commandments at Easter time. That is when the ultimate gift was given to humankind, the sacrifice of Jesus taking the sins of the whole world onto himself. Amazing. Grace.
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Re: It’s a Wonderful Life
Dec 26, 2022, 9:38 AM
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I've watched it 40-leven times and just yesterday I noticed that he got the opportunity to say kind things to his father before going to the dance, then coming home from the dance he learns his father had a stroke (and my presumption is that he passed away from it). It was truly George Bailey's last words to him.
My last words to my father were said on Easter weekend, 2007. They came from 3½ hours away to visit us in Charleston. On July 4, we stayed up to shoot fireworks, and sometime early in the morning hours of the 5th the phone rang. You know it's going to be one of those calls you hate to answer. He had had a massive stroke and I asked with all the tact I can muster, "should I come right now or once everyone wakes up tomorrow?" My sister told me I could probably wait until the morning, which said to me that machines were keeping his body alive. That was the case. That was a Thursday morning and they pulled the plugs Friday afternoon for a Saturday funeral. One of my good friends got married that day, so it was a double sadness that I was in one church for an awful reason and not in her church to share in her joy.
He had been having kidney and heart issues, and smaller strokes had left him partially blind. The worsening health was probably a blessing rather than a curse, as it informed me that his time was probably short and I should make every visit count. I didn't have anything magnanimous to say to him at Easter, but I told him I loved him. More importantly, I didn't waste words on "nothing" talk and more importantly, we weren't squabbling or demeaning. It was a fitting goodbye between two cognitive individuals. I see him as the patriarch Bailey who spent his life working away providing a service for the little guys like the ones in Bedford Falls at a reasonable rate. We had just enough, never too much, and I believe he made our little town a better place.
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