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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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At some point I guess guys grow up
Nov 22, 2021, 10:14 AM
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Maybe not. I know I don't ever remember being like this...
I went to a friends house for dinner Sat night and his college aged daughter (no pigs) and her boyfriend were there.
Apparently, friend of and his wife have made the boyfriend comfortable enough that he doesn't have any problem getting chit faced drunk around them (and their friends), and dude runs his mouth when he drinks. A LOT. Like, he never shut up about how bad USC was going to beat Clemson. I asked him why he thought that and his reply was 'They just HAVE to!" I just let him run his mouth and never really replied, because...why. Other friends that was there asked me if all USC fans were like that. "Yes, pretty much."
Holy chit, from telling us all the drugs all his friends are doing, to who he knows that OD'd, to blathering on about how fast his POS car is (was) that he just wrecked..the reasons to bounce this guy out of her life never seemed to stop. All her dad kept saying was "He's never like this unless he drinks" and it was all I could do to only make a face back at him in return.
Honestly, I'm not sure how the human race has continued to propagate if this is how young men really are. The girl is not bad looking, probably a little b!tchy, but tolerable when you are 21. I'm not sure what good qualities this guy has; maybe he has a huge hawg. I don't see any potential knowledge or anything going on with this guy may have that would make him attractive to anyone. He seemed like the kinda guy who will flunk out of college 1.5 semesters before graduating then end up working in a Verizon store or a vape shop somewhere.
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Seriously. We need a Grumpy Old Man Board.
Nov 22, 2021, 10:17 AM
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So those of us who feel this way can have a place of our own.
Stay skrong IU!
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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I think this is way different than just me being grumpy
Nov 22, 2021, 10:20 AM
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I mean unless portraying oneself as a complete idiot has all of a sudden become a good thing to do.
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Sorry to offend you. Make up any name you like, but the
Nov 22, 2021, 10:26 AM
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"thing were different back in my day" board is the gist of it.
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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Doesn't offend me; thats enlightening I guess.
Nov 22, 2021, 10:28 AM
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I mean if this sorta thing is now what's "normal".
Is it?
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You are clearly not woke.***
Nov 22, 2021, 10:30 AM
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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Is this really the same thing?***
Nov 22, 2021, 10:35 AM
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You should have asked her STRAIGHT UP
Nov 22, 2021, 10:19 AM
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"How big is your boyfriend's dick cause he must be slanging C0ckzilla down there to put up with this bullshit, or he has a hefty net worth already."
I bet that would have gone over well.
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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I'm not sure it could have been any worse
Nov 22, 2021, 10:23 AM
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When someone is extolling the virtues of doing DMT and how awesome it is..I mean how do I even respond to that?
Oh, that and his friend only OD'd twice..but once wasn't his fault because his heroine was laced with fentanyl and he didn't know it.
Maybe I am that far removed from modern social engagements.
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I can see discussing DMT, especially with the Joe Rogan fans
Nov 22, 2021, 10:31 AM
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extolling the virtues of everything he does.
Heroin though, nah, most people don't talk about that.
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I had no idea this was a thing.***
Nov 22, 2021, 10:33 AM
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Look, I'd do Mushrooms, I'd take LSD, not sure about
Nov 22, 2021, 10:35 AM
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DMT, but I would like to explore the depths of my mind.
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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Would you tell your girlfriend's father and his friends
Nov 22, 2021, 10:38 AM
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about it while simultaneously getting chit faced drunk?
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Nah, not at all. That is inexcusable, IMO.***
Nov 22, 2021, 10:56 AM
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Only substances I've evur done
Nov 22, 2021, 10:54 AM
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were tweed and shrooms.
I don't know if my mind was freed but it made watching Miami Vice a LOT more interesting.
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Re: I'm one of those people that can get paranoid with some weed
Nov 22, 2021, 11:31 AM
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It most definitely does
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Re: Nah, they don't have the paranoia factor of weed, at all.***
Nov 22, 2021, 4:14 PM
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next thing I know, I'm in Debo's chicken coop,
Nov 22, 2021, 4:21 PM
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sweatin like a slave!
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Good grief. Once a young man has
Nov 22, 2021, 10:23 AM
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been happily married to my daughter 10+ years, proven to treat her well and been a good provider, and given me a grandkid or two, THEN he can begin the process of getting comfortable around me.
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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Friends of have definitely let this happen
Nov 22, 2021, 10:27 AM
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Which I was also surprised about. I dunno, maybe they thought they would alienate him if they acted like adults?
Who am I to judge I guess.
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She's in college. It's like a requirement to get dicked
Nov 22, 2021, 10:24 AM
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down by like 10-15 of these guys so that when she finally meets prince charming she can see him for what he's worth.
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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That commercial that says telling the truth isn't always
Nov 22, 2021, 10:26 AM
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thing to do:
Teenage girl on her bed crying because her boyfriend broke up with her, father tells her "Don't worry honey..This will only happen 5-6 more times in your life...if you are lucky."
It always makes me laugh.
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Oculus Spirit [79400]
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Except what will actually happen is she stays with the loser
Nov 22, 2021, 10:29 AM
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through her 20's as he gets progressively worse and alienates all of her friends and family who try to get her to see the light. Then after he finally hits rock bottom and either beats her ### or dies from an overdose she'll decide all men just suck and it's their fault she can't be happy.
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If I'm being honest, LB, this thread
Nov 22, 2021, 10:30 AM
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made me miss your sister's ex-boyfriend stories.
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It's kind of funny this thread popped up today
Nov 22, 2021, 10:36 AM
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We're at about the year mark of the last ones heroin overdose. Thankfully everyone knows not to approach me looking for compassion over the situation.
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Re: At some point I guess guys grow up
Nov 22, 2021, 10:27 AM
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I have a zero tolerance policy for being around annoying A-holes at this point in my life. I probably would have bounced, if I couldn't avoid this person.
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Same policy, but you're more diplomatic than I am.
Nov 22, 2021, 10:29 AM
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I would have found it irresistible to tell the kid exactly what I thought of him, Lakebum style, which would have then spurred my departure except my wife would have been pisssed at me the rest of the night.
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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He wasn't so annoying that I would give up time being around
Nov 22, 2021, 10:32 AM
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my friends because of him.
I'm looking at this from a "in 3 months I prob won't see these guys much, if at all again" perspective, so he was pretty easy to ignore.
That, and it was almost like watching a science experiment of "holy chit...is this reality now?"
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LET ME TELL YOU HOW THAT ENDS UP GOING
Nov 22, 2021, 10:32 AM
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Everyone gets pissed off at you and all of his flaws that you point out bizarrely melt into the background as everyone hones in on your shortcomings and problems as if you're the person that was being an obnoxious assshole in the first place.
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So it's basically just like reacting to a deekhead driver on
Nov 22, 2021, 10:36 AM
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the Interstate....somehow you magically become the deekhead to everyone else in the car.
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Re: So it's basically just like reacting to a deekhead driver on
Nov 22, 2021, 10:43 AM
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Re: Same policy, but you're more diplomatic than I am.
Nov 22, 2021, 10:32 AM
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I've punched too many people in the face in my life. They all deserved it, but now I just try to avoid this sort.
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Dealt with something similar here.
Nov 22, 2021, 10:33 AM
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BF had been drinking. Starts dropping F bombs all over the place and felt the need to randomly tell me a GREAT story bout how he almost fought his HS baseball coach.
I said GOODNIGHT and went to bed. He went home. Had a long talk with TRDJita the next morning about riding with someone that had been drinking, boundaries, lines and where/how they get crossed, foul language, and more.
Did get a solid in person apology from the kid the next day. Not sure he'll ever recover from it in terms of how I view him.
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I think I heard a few similar stories.
Nov 22, 2021, 10:35 AM
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Apparently he's beaten everyone in CHS's-ass at least once.
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Some chicks seem to just gravitate to dudes like this
Nov 22, 2021, 10:41 AM
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It's a very strange phenomenon. Similarly a lot of dudes seem to gravitate to the biggest bisch they can find, a lot of times these people aren't even attractive.
He'll probably have 3 DUI's by the time he's 27 and end up living with his parents. If your friends are big enough push overs, he may even end up living with them. I SEENT IT HAPPEN
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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I thought about your sisters b-friend stories while this guy
Nov 22, 2021, 10:44 AM
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was rambling on.
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His parents are probably loaded.
Nov 22, 2021, 10:47 AM
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Only sensible explanation, and even that's dumb.
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Maybe they're in the same friend group
Nov 22, 2021, 10:57 AM
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You'll notice a lot of people form little cliques, and they'll make major life decisions based off what they think the group would approve of. Everything is done as a group, and they're all used to each other, so when they get out of the pack sometimes they don't realize how ridiculous their behavior actually is since the friend group has always been approving.
I've got several theories on the psychology behind it, maybe I should lie about my academic credentials and write a book someday.
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I think you may have hit upon something.
Nov 22, 2021, 11:06 AM
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My understanding is that They hung out with a group of friends together for a while before she started dating this prize winner.
She seemed content on hanging out with her parents and their friends Saturday, but after he watched Carolina win and had a few more drinks he insistently had to go to go downtown to go dancing. I assumed what this really meant was to go do psychedelics with loud music.
I mean when I was 21 there's no way you could make me leave a house where I had free food and liquor to go to a dance club 7 miles away in an uber, then later try and find a drunken, high ride home. I mean I would have been out at "dance club", but that's a whole 'nother thing.
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No man dances for enjoyment.***
Nov 22, 2021, 11:17 AM
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He probably nags the #### out of her any time she doesn't
Nov 22, 2021, 11:23 AM
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want to do exactly what he wants, and it's easier to give in. The friend group dynamic is real man, I suspect there's a lot of unhappy marriages out there that stem from it. There's usually a distinct hierarchy, there's typically a leader I label the Papabear of the group. Papabear may have a right hand man/woman, but most of the time his cubs will mold their personalities/behavior around his. Given what you describe, it sounds like he might be the Papabear, if so he also summoned up the rest of the cubs to meet them downtown. I bet if you pushed her parents on it, they'd say she seems more stressed out/anxious and not as happy since being with him.
He wanted to go dancing? Is she sure he isn't homasex?
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Oculus Spirit [80993]
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He did seem like the nagging type.
Nov 22, 2021, 11:34 AM
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An she doesn't seem like the kind to put up with it.
Like I said, I assumed the need to go to a "dance club" was just either do, or get drugs. Now that I kinda think about all this, he's going to end up arrested.
She was saying she wanted to go to a place that has several different bars in it that are all mostly a place to hang out. Even she didn't seem big on the dance club thing.
What you are saying is pretty much spot on.
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