Family Vent...

May 19, 2022, 12:52 PM

So, I mentioned that my grandmother died. Well, things have unfolded in a lovely way there for the most part. Her assets were largely co-owned with my mom or my aunt and her personal possessions have long since been pledged or passed on to family outside of some old clothes and geriatric shoes, so that is blissful. She was truly in a bad place and is without doubt or question in a better place now with my Grandfather.

Well, she wants to be cremated and interred at Grace episcopal with my Grandfather in the Columbarium they built because ######, he wanted them to have a Columbarium and he raised the dang money for it. Beautiful. My family all pretty much decided organically that we should find a time when everyone can make it, rent a house on IOP or somewhere and have her interred and then party for a few days to remember her. It magically works out that we find the only 5 day window everyone can squeeze into and we find a house that is more or less big enough for everyone with places for kids to crash.

All good. Then someone suggests a photo album of pictures of Grandmom that everyone can chip in on. Sounds lovely. Now, I expect as soon as I see that, that there are going to be pictures of my fatass ex-wife sprinkled into the mix as she was present for some big family moments. But I figure for sure people will be sensitive to fact that one, I have a new wife who is 150 times the woman, mother and person that my ex wife ever was that might not want to spend an entire 4-5 day weekend reliving all the times my ex-wife was at some event or another and two, the fat-ass ex-wife is currently giddy because my relationship with my son is in the #######.

Well, first round of photos hit Google photos and I'll be ###### if there aren't pictures not just of me and my ex with the family, but pictures of my ex and her sister with the family where I'm not even in the picture. Meanwhile, my son and I are largely estranged right now mostly because of the way this ##### chooses NOT to parent and the fact that now he's turned 18, he's happier where there are no rules at ALL and isn't required to come to my house anymore.

I think I've handled the situation with everyone but I'm still pissed about the whole thing and that I even have to point out to folks that it's sort of just a common kindness not to throw that #### in someone's face.

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you'd quickly realize that she's slumming with me. But she's also inexplicably madly in love with me and sometimes scared that this long shared history with my ex will somehow cause her to be moved out.

Now, this is impossible. I met my ex early on in life. She was older. I was a nerd. I had no self-confidence. I fell into a relationship without much thought and then just kept checking boxes. Graduate, get job, get married, have kid, be bored and lifeless but assume that was just the way it is. There were red flags. Huge ones. Hell, I looked around the boat on a snorkel trip on our honeymoon and realized I was more attracted to every other woman on the boat than my wife. But the longer I was committed the more entrenched I became with the idea that I wasn't going to be my dad and leave my significant other for someone else. Opportunities presented as I got older and more confident. But I refused to do that. Then one day, she comes in and says she's not happy. I was pissed more than hurt honestly. Looking back, I was thinking I was afraid but really, I was PISSED and not acknowledging it.

But hey, let's work it out if we can for the kid. Spent a year waiting on her to figure her #### out and then one day, she started talking like she had changed her mind and I was suddenly not angry, but scared. I had gotten used to the idea that she was gone and had started looking forward to it. I forced a separation and started dating within weeks. I met my new wife so fast it scared me. But a good friend who had known me through the process pointed out that I had been moved on for more than two years at that point.

Anyway, now I'm married to a beautiful woman who likes sex, is kind and funny and smart and challenges me to be better everyday. She's just a little sensitive about my ex being some kind of foil to her being accepted by my family. I'll post some kind of picture at some point, but it will be an old one from her modeling days.

Family Vent...

Have you talked to your wife about it?

JFC man

Dude, if you saw a picture of me and my wife...

Before you go into the screening of the gallery,

I got nuthin for you but a point

You're fastchad's dad?***

You have every right and doing that is

I feel like this first begs a question:

It's pretty similar to a Patagonium. *

Not for the album, but for us . . .

It would appear you German'd my post, almost exactly.

all i can say is i'm moving toward the age where

Send your nudes to me now.

Put it in a google drive and you'll get a 21 ### salute***

Hit "reply" to see the ###

Look, I know different religions have different customs, but

Something to think about when you’re drinking later…

I've dealt with stupid 18 year olds for over a decade

For starters,

if ex was fat, 150x the woman of current wife is way large***

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